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Hey guys...I figured this was a question more suited towards this forum than say....my college buddies...
Anyway...back story.
I met this girl some time last year online, through a friend, and I thought she was a real cutie. But, she was dating some guy so I left it alone.
During the last year, I was dating my ex...and we recently broke up and yada yada...
Anyway...she's single right now also. We've been talking this whole time, and get along wonderfully.
So, last week I decided to ask her if she'd like to finally meet face to face. We went and saw a movie and had a wonderful time together. I like her, and enjoy spending time with her...and she wants to see me again...so that's all good.
Now here's the problem. Her parents are not so keen on me.
They think I'm a "complete stranger"...and I guess I can understand that...but we've been talking for over a year, and she went to summer school with my little brother...so it's not like I'm completely out of nowhere.
Also, the age difference bothers them I think. She is 16, and I am 18. She's in 11th grade and I'm in first year college.
(Just so we're clear, there are no legal issues in Canada regarding this age difference).
Now....we're both fine with the age difference. We've discussed it with each other, and it's no issue.
I can see where her parents are coming from here also...
But here's the question.
What the heck do I do? I need to convince her parents that I'm a nice guy obviously...but how?
I think it'd be the most awkward thing ever to just meet them straight up one day when I know they already don't like me.
I'm sure once we got into a conversation it would probably be ok...but how do I get to that point and not make it awkward.
I want to explain to them that while I may be 2 years older, it's not like I'm an old perverted pedophile. I'm carrying a perfect average in college so far, and plan to keep it that way...so it's not like I have no ambition, either... I just got a 450 dollar scholarship in the mail today. I mean...I'm a pretty smart guy....that's a plus right?
What can I say about my job? I don't really have one...so is that a total writeoff? Or can I spin it well? Like..."I'm just really trying to concentrate on school and get perfect grades so I can go places later"...? Cause that's pretty much the situation (honesty is good right? lol)
What the heck do I say if they ask "what are your intentions with my daughter?"...
Sorry this is going so long...and so off topic...(but that's what this off topic section is for, right?)
Any help you can give me would be great...cause obviously I'm not a parent...and I can't possibly know all the things they're thinking. Any ideas for ways to meet them in a comfortable way would be great.
Anyway...back story.
I met this girl some time last year online, through a friend, and I thought she was a real cutie. But, she was dating some guy so I left it alone.
During the last year, I was dating my ex...and we recently broke up and yada yada...
Anyway...she's single right now also. We've been talking this whole time, and get along wonderfully.
So, last week I decided to ask her if she'd like to finally meet face to face. We went and saw a movie and had a wonderful time together. I like her, and enjoy spending time with her...and she wants to see me again...so that's all good.
Now here's the problem. Her parents are not so keen on me.
They think I'm a "complete stranger"...and I guess I can understand that...but we've been talking for over a year, and she went to summer school with my little brother...so it's not like I'm completely out of nowhere.
Also, the age difference bothers them I think. She is 16, and I am 18. She's in 11th grade and I'm in first year college.
(Just so we're clear, there are no legal issues in Canada regarding this age difference).
Now....we're both fine with the age difference. We've discussed it with each other, and it's no issue.
I can see where her parents are coming from here also...
But here's the question.
What the heck do I do? I need to convince her parents that I'm a nice guy obviously...but how?
I think it'd be the most awkward thing ever to just meet them straight up one day when I know they already don't like me.
I'm sure once we got into a conversation it would probably be ok...but how do I get to that point and not make it awkward.
I want to explain to them that while I may be 2 years older, it's not like I'm an old perverted pedophile. I'm carrying a perfect average in college so far, and plan to keep it that way...so it's not like I have no ambition, either... I just got a 450 dollar scholarship in the mail today. I mean...I'm a pretty smart guy....that's a plus right?
What can I say about my job? I don't really have one...so is that a total writeoff? Or can I spin it well? Like..."I'm just really trying to concentrate on school and get perfect grades so I can go places later"...? Cause that's pretty much the situation (honesty is good right? lol)
What the heck do I say if they ask "what are your intentions with my daughter?"...
Sorry this is going so long...and so off topic...(but that's what this off topic section is for, right?)
Any help you can give me would be great...cause obviously I'm not a parent...and I can't possibly know all the things they're thinking. Any ideas for ways to meet them in a comfortable way would be great.