it's been a while since i was this pissed off

[terri]

Carli!!!! Honey.....BAN HER. Leave her comment up, explain it if you feel you have to (or not), then kick her ass to the curb!!

Inexcusable, unjustifiable, you're the mod, she's the ***** - that equals a no-brainer, girlie. She's OUT.

Anyone there who doesn't get it, who misses her warmth, they can get the **** out, too. Ya know??

Sometimes issues DO get to be black and white. Don't make it gray.

 

[MDowdey]

Sometimes issues DO get to be black and white. Don't make it gray.

terri, i LOVE that quote. LOVE it. :hug:


md

 

[Hertz van Rental]

Try and get them to come to the UK. We still burn people like that at the stake!

 

[carlita]

i've banned her before (for posting porn) and the other mods decided to let her come back after she claimed she'd been at work during the time the stuff was posted on her account suggesting that it, therefore, couldn't have ACTUALLY been her. i didn't buy it then and i don't buy it now, but i don't have the final say on these things over there. :-? although, in some ways, i probably should. i won't get into all that though.

the only reason i'm not pulling the plug on her myself is because this is far too personal for me. if she's going to be banned, someone more objective needs to do it. at least, that's how i feel anyway. (figures that i loved my ethics class so much, eh? )

here's a bit of the reaction her comment got (random people so i won't use names, but i'll explain a few of them):

"That was mean, lilsublime."

"Lilly's got some big ass balls.
HAAAAAAAA!" (this was one of her friends so... no surprise there. they're both horrible.)

"big ass balls? hardly. a big ass grudge is more like it.
so go ahead and spout some BS about me now too, lilly. it'll make you look super cool." (that was me)

"yeah, it really takes a lot of balls to be giant raging ***** for no reason.
:roll: "

"Isn't this grudge stuff three years old now?" (it, in fact, is. lilly's been pissed at me AND my friend for a looooooooooooong time.)

"Whatever it is, it's disgusting and beyond pathetic."

"Honestly, that's the bitchiest thing I've ever seen, and I normally like lilly."

"Yeah I think that is one of the bitchiest things I've ever seen too."

"What a totally disgusting witch!"

"that was too damn far. even for lilly!" (goes to show you... people EXPECT her to be cruel.)

"That really sucks, I hope it costs her friends and respect; if anyone had any for her that is."



why people have come to idolize this girl, i have NO idea. i guess maybe a lot of people just think she's tough/strong because of how she acts. but there's a difference between being strong and being abusive. i'm disliked by several people over there partly for being a mod and partly for being perceived as a ***** (what can i say? i tell it like it is and people generally don't like that. )... but in my case, i just don't put up with people's sh*t. in HER case, she's the one starting all the sh*t and expecting people to put up with it. and for the most part, the general population over there does just that.

 

[Hertz van Rental]

Judge a man by the company he keeps.
If people like this person then it says an awful lot about them and they are obviously not worth knowing.
Ban her and if they let her back in I would leave the website myself.
"For evil to prevail all that is needed is for good men to do nothing."

 

[carlita]

well, i'm currently discussing it with the other mods and i'm certainly making a huge push to have her banned. if they don't want to do it, i'm taking it to the website's owner and seeing if he'll do it. he's generally left this stuff for us to work out on our own though. he basically just codes the site and takes care of the servers and such these days. doesn't really moderate at all unless there's a huge issue to tend to that we other mods can't agree on.

 

[ferny]

Yeah, internet politics can be a royal pain in the arse. Been there, upset tens of people, bought the t-shirt etc. Just remember, these people can talk behind your back, can post horrible things about you and make you angry, but does it mater what they say? They're just words on a page typed by a twat. Easy to say for someone who isn't involved I know. But it's true.

If she is constantly upsetting people and/or being a (insert four letter word beginning with c and ending in t) then she should have been warning by now. So I'd say it is about time she got banned. You may upset her friends, but who cares? They're just words to, remember. And if they are really upset and kicking up a stink, tactfully remind them of the forum rules (you have some right? Even if you don't, when a users signs up they'll (depending on the software) get a page with some basic rules unless that has been edited) and it is very easy not to click on a bookmark. Her friends may hang around (at least two will, I'll guarantee that) or they may all up and leave. I can't see a problem there.

When you talk to the guy who owns the site make it clear (if this is the case) that new users are reading the forums and not joining because the atmosphere is horrible and they don't want to post with users like that there. There are lots of sites I haven't joined because I've read one or two users post bollocks.

The biggest problem looks to be the others mods though. How are they normally? Do they not like upsetting or offending people normally so don't want to ban her? Or are they her friends? If it's the latter you've got problems.

There is another option to. If you really don't like it and you have friends there. Why don't you all go off and join or create your own forum?

And remember, every time a user posts a message their IP gets logged. You can check to see if someone else has posted instead from a different computer or if someone has logged into an account which isn't theirs by checking the IP logs. If they are being disgusting and offensive report them to their ISP.

 

[2Stupid2Duck]

If you don't wanna ban her, then I could always come over and stalk her for a while.

I'd have to break it to the person who wanted me to be their exclusive stalker, but I already tried to explain to her that our relationship just hasn't progressed to that point yet.

 

[manda]

yeah we could all join up and gang up on her

ive known someone like that online carli, the only way to get to her was to tell her to face what she was like. she actually listend then. people are scared of people online for some reason...
its weird.
this chick was a mod though so she had major power.

i bet youll find that a lot of people dont like this lilly person. a lot of the times its easier to think the bully is cool than to stand up to her/him.

 

[Luminosity]

If theres one thing I've never minded doin .... its takin on a bully .....

Generally ...with bullies .... they dont have much personal strength .... it only takes one person to stand up to them ....to show them up for what they are and normally most other people gratefully come forward and support that first person ( because they've been dyin to show what they really think for awhile but have been too nervous to upset the 'status quo' .....).

People like this 'Lilly' are a dime a dozen on the net , unfortunately .... the girl has no class and no clue .... buh bye Lilly ....'git back into da woods wiff yew ...."

 

[captain-spanky]

what is she? like 12 or something?

[devil] hire me as a mod for a day and I'll ban her, sign her mail address up for a million spam sites and get her isp to boot her for immoral practices too :LOL: [/devil]

 

[jadin]

ban her, who cares about popularity. people like that need to find out s*** like that won't stand.

let the rabbits wear glasses!

 

[Artemis]

I say, delete the post, then ban her, then hack here p.c. so she can never use the net again, thats what she deserves.

Oh and plus, send her a link to this forum page, so she can see what we think of her...but first get her Ip so she can be banned!

 

[Corry]

I agree with the others above...let us come over and gang up on her!

 

[terri]

Sometimes issues DO get to be black and white. Don't make it gray.

terri, i LOVE that quote. LOVE it. :hug:


md

aw...I'm just now seeing this, Matt. Glad I gave ya a grin.