ok, ya'll.... me and a really good friend of mine was discussing the things we find most attractive about the opposite sex.... i know physical is gonna wanna come into play... but lets skip that... we all know there are noticeable attributes that pull your eyes to another person.... but lets get real deep here.... not physical..but what other traits do you notice or find so very irrisistable in another person....? i personally love when i can spar with another person..when they get the humor, and enjoy it... when they dish it out..and keep me guessing and wondering what will be next... i love when a man can play. when he can relax and be funny...can tease... can joke and pick .... but i really find when one can get dead pan serious....and wrench your heart with his emotions. one other thing, when a man can openly love on his mother, or wife or kids in public..and not be ashamed. openly hold their children and laugh with them.. even in a mist of adults... that just warms my heart. this doesnt have to be someone you would jump their bones given the chance... just maybe even friends or co workers you find attractive for certain traits.... another really intriguing trait is when they come back at you with something you had mentioned in passing, or noticed something about you that no one else has ever noticed. thats when you know they were really interested in what you had to say... or picked up on some trait of yours that you never noticed. that is just awesome... but tell me, what is it men find desireable in women, either as friends, co workers, or even mates... and women, please add your ideas too....i am sure our list will be longer....if you just want to add physical, then tell me what you notice first or look for first ....k? thanks ya'll..