Photographing the Wedding of an immediate family member

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  1. idcanyon

    idcanyon No longer a newbie, moving up!

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    IMO, you are all over reacting. "Wedding" is not a 4 letter word. If you are a decently versatile photographer then a wedding isn't that big a deal, especially a free one where the couple has been warned they may get what they paid for. Being not much of a party animal, I'd be just as happy doing the shooting as being a guest.

    That's mostly a problem when a new mommy buys a camera to photograph the new baby with no preexisting skill or ideas on what makes a good photograph. That's not the case here. Anyway, judging the photos comes after the fact and is the job of the newlyweds, not the photographer.

    My concern for bias would be that your attachment is to either the groom or the bride, but not both--in this case the groom. You might tend to provide great reception coverage of the groom but only get the bride when she is with the groom. The size of the issue depends on how much you like your new sister-in-law. If you think your brother caught a good one then it'll be easy to do well. If you think he ought not be marrying her then you'll really have to work hard to cover her equally.


     
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    Personally, I'd rather be a guest than a "working" guest at a close relative's wedding, but you can look at it as an honor to be part of the festivities. So long as you are able to step back, be objective & unbiased, and provide what they're looking for you shouldn't have any problem.

    Just make sure you know what they're looking for - i.e. what are their "must have" shots. Relative or not you should still have a contract in place that specs out each party's expectations and services provided.

    And make sure to enjoy Thanksgiving dinner with them next year. :)
     
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    Oh, and I forgot to mention - if your GF is an equestrian photographer than she'll be very qualified to get a good shot of the "horse's arse" should one of the wedding guests get a little out of line. lol
     
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    Sounds like we'll be working hard. Nah we're no novices. My GF Cara Grimshaw Photography > redirect
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    I had a look at that link. Horses or not, that's some fine people and event portraiture. If your skills rival hers at all then the couple will end up very pleased with the results.
     
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    I sometimes do weddings. But I also did one for family members (uncle of my wife). It went well but I wouldn't do it anymore cause I'm not on a single picture. I simply wasn't there.
    All the pics went well and the couple was pleased and thankful. That's all fine for me... but I only was on some - sorry - lousy digicam photos on guests pictures.
    When you're working, it doesn't matter cause you don't realize. You give your very best. But ypu will be forgotten in the future.

    Just my 2 cents

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    I'll make sure every relative with a camera brings one
     
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    astroNikon 'ya all Bananas I tell 'ya Supporting Member

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    It will be like a Press Conference then ...
     
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    chuasam Been spending a lot of time on here!

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    Hmmm I wonder if Spicer needs a gig as an officiant
     
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    chuasam Been spending a lot of time on here!

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    You forget...I have a camera, my GF has 2 *LOL* (a pair of D810) we can always choose to just photograph each other.
     
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    right, always balance the groom and bride pics
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    I never learned how to do that in school :(
    having to photograph an immediate family's member's wedding is not easy.
    I talked to our friend KC who is one of the best wedding photographers in the region and all he did was laugh at us.

    Thank goodness we don't celebrate Thanksgiving; and even if we did, the Wedding is just 2 days before Thanksgiving in Canada ;)
     

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