"If you were my wife, I wouldn't let you do that." "I wouldn't let my husband go do that." It's the age-old question ... who rules the roost? I have fits of apoplexy every time I hear either of those statements. Now, I understand common respect in a relationship ... there are some things you shouldn't even have to 'ask' if you can do. Common sense should be knocking on your noggin on most things ... like a fella coming home covered in stripper dust. Either make sure your wife is one of the ones that doesn't mind an occasional trip ... or brush the dust off before you get home. Noggin knocking for the ladies ... either make sure he understands that you work for a living, too and that it's a JOINT checking account ... or hide the clothes in the trunk till he leaves ... (most likely headed for the 'club') ... Is your relationship ruled with an iron fist or is it a joint effort? Is there a particular lead taker on most issues or do you handle what you're good at and let the significant other handle what they're good at?