...Asking a client on a date?

[NancyMoranG]

I like a lot of what folks have said as far to just ask her. Pixmedic said it, it's just coffee or such not a weekend away..
If she is a model, I think she will know how to handle your offer. She has had many I am sure....

 

[jcdeboever]

Show her your snoot and go from there....

 

[The_Traveler]

How is it that two woman have said what they think about being in the situation and a bunch of guys are pretty certain that they know better how a woman thinks and reacts?

Certainly a great example of mansplaining.

 

[jcdeboever]

How is it that two woman have said what they think about being in the situation and a bunch of guys are pretty certain that they know better how a woman thinks and reacts?

Certainly a great example of mansplaining.

Lighten up Lew, your pics are too dark

 

[vintagesnaps]

For me, it can be awkward or uncomfortable being asked out or knowing a man is interested and not feeling the same and then to continue to see the person, it just depends on the situation. Probably if she doesn't want to go out with you, the reaction will be cordial, I just wouldn't expect that friendship or the photo shoots would necessarily continue. It's a chance I suppose it's up to you to take, and if nothing comes of it, life moves on. Or maybe she likes you too, I guess you'll find out one way or the other.

 

[The_Traveler]

Yeah, I can see where implying that women might have a better understanding of how a woman might react is really insulting to a bunch of real men especially when there have been examples of their understanding of the situation like

go get you some!

or

Show her your snoot and go from there....

 

[vintagesnaps]

Wait a minute, that isn't funny! Maybe it is, maybe it isn't, I'm giving the benefit of the doubt and taking comments to have been meant in a joking way. Not seriously. I hope.

 

[Destin]

why is it that people always assume the worst?
I mean, it looks to me like Destin is just talking about asking the girl out for coffee or lunch or something,
not a trip to a secluded cabin 50 miles from the nearest road.
plus, hes already stated that this isn't much of a "professional" working relationship as most of his work is free...
so realistically, he has some people he has been doing some photographic TFP's for, not running a business.

hes not looking to date an employee, or even a coworker.
I mean...damn.
I remember a time where a boy asking a girl out to dinner was considered a compliment, and if the girl declined, both
people went about their regularly scheduled business like nothing was out of sorts....
you know...BECAUSE ASKING SOMEONE OUT ON A DATE DOESN'T AUTOMATICALLY PUT THINGS OUT OF SORTS!

Destin...
man, if you like this girl...ask her out.
your not involved in any significant business ventures or partnerships, you've just taken her picture a few times.
ask her out, and manage the results like a responsible adult.
until proven otherwise, I think you should just assume that she is a reasonable adult, and hopefully she feels the same.

go get 'em tiger!

Well, this thread took some unexpected turns while I was away. Who the hell said I wanted to take her to a cabin in the woods? Lmao

Update: I politely asked her out. She politely turned me down. No hard feelings.

Plot twist: The world did not, in fact, implode. We have scheduled another shoot, working relationship unharmed.

 

[robbins.photo]

Well, this thread took some unexpected turns while I was away. Who the hell said I wanted to take her to a cabin in the woods? Lmao

Update: I politely asked her out. She politely turned me down. No hard feelings.

Plot twist: The world did not, in fact, implode. We have scheduled another shoot, working relationship unharmed.

Ok, so what we've learned thus far then....

When asking a girl out on a first date, do not bring an engagement ring. Or duct tape.

Women apparently are a better judge of how women think than men. That's not a startling revelation mind you, whats startling is that apparently some folks think it's a point open for debate.

And finally of course, no date means no babies. So when asking for dating advice, TPF is probably not the best place to start. We are obviously detrimental to the survival of the species.

 

[The_Traveler]

We really haven't learned anything except that Destin's offer to this model got turned down and there's another modelling session scheduled.
What we don't know is much greater, including:

How the model felt about it;
If she was uncomfortable or not.
If she'd rather it hadn't happened.
If she would have accepted if the photographer/model situation were finished and, in general,
How models and women feel in general about being asked for a date in this situation.​

There are good reasons why most professions actively discourage dating one's client.
And the only relative experts here who can speak for women are against it 2:1.

An anecdote is not data.

 

[robbins.photo]

We really haven't learned anything except that Destin's offer to this model got turned down and there's another modelling session scheduled.
What we don't know is much greater, including:

How the model felt about it;
If she was uncomfortable or not.
If she'd rather it hadn't happened.
If she would have accepted if the photographer/model situation were finished and, in general,
How models and women feel in general about being asked for a date in this situation.​

There are good reasons why most professions actively discourage dating one's client.
And the only relative experts here who can speak for women are against it 2:1.

An anecdote is not data.

But can we at least agree that TPF is a really bad source for dating advice?

 

[Advanced Photo]

 

[The_Traveler]

But can we at least agree that TPF is a really bad source for dating advice?

Or at least from most of the men.

 

[Advanced Photo]

We really haven't learned anything except that Destin's offer to this model got turned down and there's another modelling session scheduled.
What we don't know is much greater, including:

How the model felt about it;
If she was uncomfortable or not.
If she'd rather it hadn't happened.
If she would have accepted if the photographer/model situation were finished and, in general,
How models and women feel in general about being asked for a date in this situation.​

There are good reasons why most professions actively discourage dating one's client.
And the only relative experts here who can speak for women are against it 2:1.

An anecdote is not data.

But can we at least agree that TPF is a really bad source for dating advice?

I warned him...but noooo!

 

[robbins.photo]

Or at least from most of the men.

Can't debate that ... lol