I got invited to a wedding...because I have a camera.

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  1. table1349

    table1349 Been spending a lot of time on here!

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    Yep, sounds like this wedding has all the makings of a fine Griswold Family get together. Load up in the truckster, grab Elaine, Eddie, Catherine and Aunt Edna and go have a real good time.


     
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  2. zombiesniper

    zombiesniper Furtographer Extraordinaire! Supporting Member

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    I just tell my family "I photograph wildlife and really like birds in flight, but if you're willing to catapult the (bride/graduate/event type) I'm willing to photograph it"

    But then my family would expect that type of rebuttal.
     
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    snowbear Oh, hai. I iz bear. Supporting Member

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    Some of mine would grab 2x4s and bungie cords and start making a catapult.
     
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    snowbear Oh, hai. I iz bear. Supporting Member

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    Invited? No. Asked to photograph? Yes.
    I advised our dear niece that "My skill and equipment are not up to the level that you deserve for your wedding." I did, however, make her cake toppers and a few other little ditties.
     
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    I am often asked to bring my camera with me to weddings as people know my love of photography. I tell them that I'm no wedding photographer as that takes a special kind of skill, but that I'll try and take some candids as and when possible without getting in the way of a proper pro wedding photographer. I've then given the photos that I think are good enough to the bride and groom as a supplement to what they have from a pro. If I felt that they were relying on me of the actual wedding photos I would be politely clear that I don't want the responsibility of being the 'official' photographer, and that while I am a competent landscape photographer, event photography isn't what I'd describe as my forte. If they persisted, I would say that I had forgotten my camera when I arrived.

    Having made it clear to them that they should hire a proper photographer as it is the one and only thing that survives physically from the day, I wouldn't feel guilty about them not having an official photographer because they ignored my advice. To ignore my reluctance to be the 'official' photographer would be rude on their part.

    Would I care about them speaking ill of me as a result? Not really. Having been polite about it throughout, all I'd care about was that I was reasonable, polite and right.
     
  6. nerwin

    nerwin Been spending a lot of time on here!

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    Thanks everyone for all the awesome responses, it definitely gave me some food for thought.

    But I pretty much made up my mind that I'm not going to go. I love my cousin and his soon to be wife, but I only see them once a year (maybe) and they are just not part of life. Even though I got an invite, the way they worded it sounded like I only got invited because I take pictures and that just made me feel uninvited. I'm sure that wasn't their intention, but I never know with my family. As I mentioned before, I don't like weddings. I went to my brothers wedding a couple years ago and I hated it, it was one of the hardest things for me...but I did it anyways because it was my brother.

    Its not until the end of the year so I got plenty time to think about it and who knows...I could end up changing my mind! On the other hand...the food menu looks good. Haha.
     
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    Spend ages gathering and positioning people and at the last second turn the camera around and start taking a load of selfies.
     
  8. wyogirl

    wyogirl Oh crop! Supporting Member

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    Yeah doctors don't get that-- but it's not exclusive to photogs. I get the "can you bring your hair cutting scissors?" All the time
     
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    If the food menu looks good then you got screwd because the if you taking pictures you don't have time to eat.
     
  10. nerwin

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    I would eat. I'm not the photographer.
     
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    I would certainly offer my unskilled services if they were broke, having it in the backyard or worse someone elses backyard, asked me nicely and i guess preferably upfront about it. Ive been to a few byob weddings.
     

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