So, I have an ongoing debate as to whether or not it's possible for men and women to be JUST FRIENDS. I think it's very possible and happens often ... the counterpart to this debate says it's not possible ... that there will always be some sort of 'more than friends' feelings involved with one of them ... if not both, and that it's just setting the stage for something to happen.
I know people who have had very close opposite sex friends for years ... met, dated and married someone and suddenly ... the spouse wigs out and gets all possessive and says, "That's wrong! You shouldn't have them as friends anymore! You're married to me!!!" Funny ... everyone got along when they were dating ... even had the friend in the wedding ... then all of a sudden ... *poof* ... the world ends and jealousy reigns. Okay ... is everyone supposed to throw away years of history and bonding? What exactly happened when the vows were said and cake was had?
Now, I'm not saying you can still hang out every weekend or stuff like that. I think it's fine to have lunch, email or talk on the phone ... and everyone hanging out, having dinner ... whatever ... is fine.
I happen to NOT be a jealous person ... seems to be wasted energy to me. You either know your significant other's commitment or not.
Any thoughts?
I know people who have had very close opposite sex friends for years ... met, dated and married someone and suddenly ... the spouse wigs out and gets all possessive and says, "That's wrong! You shouldn't have them as friends anymore! You're married to me!!!" Funny ... everyone got along when they were dating ... even had the friend in the wedding ... then all of a sudden ... *poof* ... the world ends and jealousy reigns. Okay ... is everyone supposed to throw away years of history and bonding? What exactly happened when the vows were said and cake was had?
Now, I'm not saying you can still hang out every weekend or stuff like that. I think it's fine to have lunch, email or talk on the phone ... and everyone hanging out, having dinner ... whatever ... is fine.
I happen to NOT be a jealous person ... seems to be wasted energy to me. You either know your significant other's commitment or not.
Any thoughts?