These are the sort of real-life challenges you'll face as a portrait photographer.
So, if you stop and think about THAT, you are depending on others to settle on how YOUR portfolio looks.
I know it's hard. But you will constantly be faced with the choice of keeping or relinquishing control over what your images will be. When someone views your work, they will not be swayed by disclaimers or justifications... only what they SEE will tell them about your work.
Don't loose heart. It's a long journey, and we're all traveling toward something better.
-Pete