opposite sex attractions

aprilraven · Nov 16, 2005

ok, ya'll....

me and a really good friend of mine was discussing the things we find most attractive about the opposite sex.... i know physical is gonna wanna come into play... but lets skip that... we all know there are noticeable attributes that pull your eyes to another person....

but lets get real deep here.... not physical..but what other traits do you notice or find so very irrisistable in another person....?

i personally love when i can spar with another person..when they get the humor, and enjoy it... when they dish it out..and keep me guessing and wondering what will be next... i love when a man can play. when he can relax and be funny...can tease... can joke and pick .... but i really find when one can get dead pan serious....and wrench your heart with his emotions.

one other thing, when a man can openly love on his mother, or wife or kids in public..and not be ashamed. openly hold their children and laugh with them.. even in a mist of adults... that just warms my heart. this doesnt have to be someone you would jump their bones given the chance... just maybe even friends or co workers you find attractive for certain traits....

another really intriguing trait is when they come back at you with something you had mentioned in passing, or noticed something about you that no one else has ever noticed. thats when you know they were really interested in what you had to say... or picked up on some trait of yours that you never noticed. that is just awesome...

but tell me, what is it men find desireable in women, either as friends, co workers, or even mates... and women, please add your ideas too....i am sure our list will be longer....if you just want to add physical, then tell me what you notice first or look for first ....k? thanks ya'll..

jstuedle · Nov 16, 2005

Cathy and I have gotten along because we have similar interests. We like similar movies, similar types of food, the same music, similar humor and books. We listen to each other, and we can talk about almost anything and be engaging in the conversation. She is an artist, and I the photographer. When we had businesses together we had shared responsibilities and work well together. We enjoy more time with each other instead of individual space. We have become each others best friend and best partners.

Xmetal · Nov 16, 2005

Women with a sense of humour who can socialise and not act like a stuck up tart. Open mindedness goes a long way in my books and the ability to engage in deep conversations that last for hours.

I like women who look after themselves and don't go nuts with dieting and exercise.

I like soft skin, nice breasts and a nice set of hips. :mrgreen: :afro:

...oh and I melt when a see a lady with a super nice smile.

anicole · Nov 16, 2005

aprilraven said:
me and a really good friend of mine ..

you have another really good friend besides me?!?! :grumpy:

Okay, so my 'makes me all girlie and mushie' things:

1. a beautiful mind that can carry on a conversation about anything with anyone from a two year old to the president.
2. quick wit
3. the ability to be a gentleman without making a woman feel helpless or incompetent
4. a smoothe-as-whisky phone voice (pitty pat my heart!!)
5. long, slow, deep, wet kisses that last three days ....

oh wait ... that was Kevin Costner in Bull Durham ... wrong thread ... sorry ... talk among yourselves ...

I guess I must add:

6. A man in uniform ... (whew ... on that note, I'm outta here!)

Verbal · Nov 16, 2005

This one is really important to me: you know how some people are really good at giving that look? That look that can cut you down and make you feel stupid, and not good enough? The look that says "That was such a dumb joke, you retard"... I am not attracted to anyone even capable of that look. If she can't put aside her pride and laugh at stupidity and silliness, I don't wanna even be friends with her. But if she can, and if she can just be herself and not worry about looking stupid, then that' something special in my book. Humor is important to me, but not just humor... how she treats other people. For a guy who's been looked down on all his life for being the one to crack the dumb jokes, and the guy who gets "the giggles" frequently, I want a girl who can just let go and be goofy.

The last relationship I was in, the girl was rather...self-centered. So I've been there, and don't want to go there again. It's really attractive to me when a girl can set aside whatever she's doing or feeling to be there when someone else needs her. I'm not talking about wanting her to cater to me, but just having the attitude that others are more important... that's a thing to look for in my book.

And the last and biggest thing is that she has to be a Christian. And I'm not talking about just one of those "yeah, I think I believe in God" Christians, but God has to be THE most important thing in her life, and she would have to love Him more than she would ever love me. That is NUMBER ONE, in my book.

And that's it. =)

aprilraven · Nov 16, 2005

this is great... have you noticed a theme...almost everyone says humor and able to communicate.... thats interesting.........

deep down, no matter where your from, being heard, and treated kindly, add some laughter...guess we all want that, huh?? then why are so many miserable??

woodsac · Nov 16, 2005

I just like real. If you can go to the store in your slippers, wear you hair in pigtails to a luncheon, make a joke even if you're not sure it's funny. Dress how you wanna, say what you wanna, be yourself. But...you also need to know when to bite your tongue, when to dress up and when to act like an adult. And if I'm out of line, tell me!!! Don't embarass me, but let me know that you didn't appreciate what I said or how I said it.

Oh, and smile :biggrin:

The first thing that will attract me to a woman is her smile. And I'm not talking physical. I will usually notice a smile, and not even be able to tell you what they looked like. Just make me notice her. Someone that smiles a lot has a lot to offer. I don't smile a whole lot, but I love to make other people smile. Even at my own expense :Joker:

I'm sure these are the reasons that I've been with Sicily for almost 9 years :hugs:

LittleMan · Nov 16, 2005

What I notice/want...

A girl who can carry on an intelligent conversation without going completely nutts over something...

She needs to be able to let go and have fun!

She has to be able to go through rough times without completely losing it.(a little is ok.. that's what we are here for? right?)

I want a girl that can love me openly and not be shy about it around other people.

She needs to be mathematical/intelligent.

Definately needs to be able to play piano.

oh, and she MUST be able to give really really good hugs. :mrgreen:

and she need to surprise me a lot with stuff I never knew about her... so that and more.

ummm, yeah... all that and what Xmetal said sounds like a good girl.