Crystle, I agreed (though didn't post so) in your other thread with the people who thought that your strengths were more so in the genuine emotion and posing of subjects, etc. than post processing. And specifically in the sense of the post processing coming across as a little overbearing. I'd suggest just doing less stuff in post for you in particular. Not necessarily fewer steps / effects, but whenever you get a slider where you think you like it, dial it back a little bit from there, save it and don't look back. So in other words, less strong filters and make a conscious effort not to second guess them. At least as an exercise for a little while. I think that would capitalize on your primary strengths of natural, carefree looking composition and expressions and posing by having a more natural looking post process style to match, and would also cause you to spend less time on the computer to boot.
Since you describe it as "obsessive compulsive" I assume you aren't having a lot of fun in the process, or you would use a different word choice =P so less time on the computer would probably be good whether it's a business or not, yes?
I'm not entirely singling you out. I think that anybody who goes and fiddles with the same setting more than once or twice usually ends up with less natural looking results, simply because the whole photo begins to drift slowly away from realism in little steps the more tweaks are added. And also many people, myself included, have an instinct to add mroe vignetting or more saturation than is perhaps ideal, so consciously dialing it back 30% routinely can really help.