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Retainer Refund Thoughs
My hubby and I had a little disagreement today.
Here is the deal: Bride had a wedding scheduled for May 31st. They had a bad breakup, and she had to cancel. She asked NICELY if it was possible to get SOME PART of her retainer back.
I informed her it was unlikely that I could rebook her date at this late hour, and that I did not normally refund retainers for cancelled weddings. However, I told her, we are not heartless to her situation, so I would refund HALF of the retainer.
(We have done absolutely nothing for this girl besides a sit down meeting and booking). I had also not recorded any other dates that were interested in her date.
So I called the hubby, who was none too happy. A contract is a contract, and I should have consulted him first before sending my reply. (The last half is probably true). He wanted to keep the entire retainer, but I felt really bad for the bride, and her situation. I wasn't greedless. I kept a lot of money for doing absolutely nothing in a very busy month. I would not have starved. But hubby rightly noted that we had already lost thousands of dollars for a wedding that would never be.
But at the same time, hubby is very stedfast in his point as well. It was a large retainer on a large job, and now we are refunding some to this bride. If we do that, to be fair, we should do it for all brides who cancel. But more than that, it is money out of our bank account. He hates to see it go. He likes seeing it all add up.
And needless to say, it's coming out of the money we had already planned on for the new house. I get his point. I do.
I need some strong opinions here. Maybe I'm being a doormat. Maybe I was right. I really really really don't know the correct answer here.
If you cound answer back in a Yes or No format and why, that would really help us a lot. Thanks in advance.
Many Hugs,
Cindy
My hubby and I had a little disagreement today.
Here is the deal: Bride had a wedding scheduled for May 31st. They had a bad breakup, and she had to cancel. She asked NICELY if it was possible to get SOME PART of her retainer back.
I informed her it was unlikely that I could rebook her date at this late hour, and that I did not normally refund retainers for cancelled weddings. However, I told her, we are not heartless to her situation, so I would refund HALF of the retainer.
(We have done absolutely nothing for this girl besides a sit down meeting and booking). I had also not recorded any other dates that were interested in her date.
So I called the hubby, who was none too happy. A contract is a contract, and I should have consulted him first before sending my reply. (The last half is probably true). He wanted to keep the entire retainer, but I felt really bad for the bride, and her situation. I wasn't greedless. I kept a lot of money for doing absolutely nothing in a very busy month. I would not have starved. But hubby rightly noted that we had already lost thousands of dollars for a wedding that would never be.
But at the same time, hubby is very stedfast in his point as well. It was a large retainer on a large job, and now we are refunding some to this bride. If we do that, to be fair, we should do it for all brides who cancel. But more than that, it is money out of our bank account. He hates to see it go. He likes seeing it all add up.
I need some strong opinions here. Maybe I'm being a doormat. Maybe I was right. I really really really don't know the correct answer here.
If you cound answer back in a Yes or No format and why, that would really help us a lot. Thanks in advance.
Many Hugs,
Cindy