Shes going...

Artemis · May 9, 2005

Well...the girl I have been...cant think of a word for this....in love with? thats too strong....well the girl ive really liked for a long time (you remember the post ages back about letting her get back with her boyfriend) is going to uni soon...and shes single..

I know I shouldnt go out with her...for 1) I like this other girl aswell...but not as much as her
2) shes just too old and too much for me...

But....shes single...she really likes me...she calls me Sweet Heart all the time, and also Stud Muffin and how she likes me and such...but...should...I atleast tell her before she goes....I think she fancies me back...shes said I love you before, and written it in my yearbook...but that could simply be because shes very friendly to me....

If any of my friends who visit this board see this...please dont say anything about it...I dont want to ruin my friendship with her before she leaves..

What do you guys think i should do? I can hardly go without thinking about her to be honest....I...dunno...

Chase · May 9, 2005

What do you have to lose by letting things be said? My advice is to go ahead and do it, why think back a few years from now wondering what would have happened...?

Meysha · May 9, 2005

Same thing happened to me a few years ago. I guy I really like was a few years older than me and we going to be finishing school and then going to university a long way away. But I really liked him. So I went for it.
Well what can I say... I had the best 2 months or so with him before he left! And eventhough we broke up and I've got a great new boyfriend, we're still friends and catch up whenever one of us is in town.

So I guess I'm saying - Go for it! If it doesn't work out and she does totaly sell you out (which won't happen because she sounds like a nice girl from what you've said) but if that does happen at least she'll be moving away so you won't have to chance that awkward running into on the street stage. And if it works out - then you'll be happy (like me) coz you'll know that you took a chance and it paid off!

Artemis · May 9, 2005

its just ive never felt about a girl as strongly as I felt for her before...and I still feel rather strongly now...

I dunno what to do...

Artemis · May 9, 2005

P.s. this may be another reason why I wont post over the next few weeks...I rekon im gonna be very upset the last week...I know its dumb cause im only 16...but still...

Andrea K · May 9, 2005

go for it, what's the worst that could happen? she says she just wants to be friends, or if she says she doesnt feel the same way about you then at least you know how she feels and you wont have to wonder about how she felt about you when she leaves

carpe diem! im sure everything will work out great! :thumbup:

meotter · May 9, 2005

i say go for it also... never live your life with "what if" hanging over your head... you'll never forgive yourself.

that being said, don't be a dope about it either... if the signs are pointing to shutting up, then do that instead

i'm telling you that one from experience also...

one thing to consider is this: what if she reacts poorly (for some unknown reason) can you deal with the thought of not being friends with her anymore? i thought i could, until it happened, and then i realised that i couldn't. in some conviluted way i guess it was for the best since now i know and don't have to live with what if, but that whole unsure flirty stage was pretty nice to. but those were some very sad days for me when i realised i had lost one of my closest friends. (some would say she wasn't a very good friend if she couldn't deal with "the talk" but we've since gotten over it and remain closest of friends again.)

consequently her inadequacy to handle the situation at the time & the time we spent apart served to strengthen our friendship in the end, since there really is no subject too taboo for us to speak about now

meotter · May 9, 2005

oh yea... good luck arte

if you decide to tell her, be confident in what you're saying, it will come across better.

photogoddess · May 9, 2005

Arty - There is more than one couple on this forum that are together because we took a leap of faith and said what was on our minds. One of those couples is even having a baby in 8 months. (congrats guys!) I say... go for it! The answer to your questions is always going to be no unless you ask. :thumbsup:

craig · May 9, 2005

Hey man; there is nothing more confusing or uncomfortable or scary or (seemingly) death defying then matters of the heart. Being uncertain or unclear may be our defense mechanism, so as to not get your heart broken. That is all well and good.

Personally; I say pursue her with the same vigor and passion that you pursue your photography. Passion should never be denied. Passion is tough on the heart but good for the soul. If she turns you down then you can say "well at least I gave it my all, may be she is not the gal for me". "Now I know". Ten bucks says she is gonna say "ohh Arty; I have dreamed of this moment for months"

All that being said... Do as you feel and never follow. Know that we are here for you. If the million emotions that are going thru your head keep you from posting that is ok. We will not be divorcing you anytime soon. Please, please know that we are all tight. Communication may be key. Venting and disgust with love and the world will be understood on this end!!!!!!!!!!!

Xmetal · May 10, 2005

Arty: Life's too short to sit around wondering what the right course of action is, if you sit and think about it too much you'll bail out and (further down the track) wish you hadn't.

So if i were you i'd get off my little 16y/o arse and give this girl something you really want her to remember you for!

Run out, find her, tell her you lurve her and wanna please her......and pray you get the right response. :lol:

Moral to the story is: you have to put in the leg work for love to find you and bind you to the person you want to love!

Isn't that right PG/Malacite(sp), Hobbes/Alison?

Artemis · May 10, 2005

Thanks guys...I know your right...what worrying is I havent seen her about at college lately

so ill have to hope she comes back before she leaves so i can chat to her....just...would like her to know is all

thanks again...

Alison · May 10, 2005

I hope you're able to talk to her before she leaves. Everyone here is right on that you have to say how you feel or you'll always wonder. Chances are that if you think she feels the same she probably does, and maybe she's just as nervous to say something to you. Love is a game of chance, but I think it's better to know than to wonder.

Scurra · May 10, 2005

Yeah I say go for it Arty, I recently did and got knocked back by the girl, but I still have a best friend from the whole experience! I say go for it, you have nothing to lose and something good is bound to come of it whether it be love or just a strong friendship.