As for what has been throwing me off was that I always under the impression that shutter speeds had very little to do with the exposure when it came to artificial light source and that apperture values always controld the amount of light ... now that the shutter effect has been explained I will have to play around and see what I can come up with. Thanks.
I think you're starting to get it, but here is another explanation that might help.
Every photo taken with flash, is actually two exposures. One from the flash and one from the ambient light. Most of the time, the two exposures line up, or one of them is much more powerful than the other, so you don't notice that there are two. For example, in a dark situation, with little ambient light, the flash has to provide lots of light for the exposure of your subject, but the background probably won't be lit by the flash. So unless you expose for the ambient (background) light, the background will be dark while the subject is bright. There is probably some ambient exposure of the subject, but it would be so faint, that it's hard to see and the flash exposure of the subject overpowers it in the photo.
In the opposite situation, out in bright conditions, there is lots of ambient light, so the ambient exposure is likely nice and bright. And if we use flash, it's probably only adding a little bit to the exposure, usually used for fill. The two exposures will probably line up very well and it looks like a single exposure/photo.
So now that we know that there are two exposures...we need to know how to control them. The ISO affects both equally. The aperture affects both equally. The shutter speed affects only the ambient exposure (because the flash burst is faster than the shutter speed). So therefore, we can use the shutter speed to change the ambient exposure, without changing the flash exposure. Lastly, there is the flash power/output...it affects the flash exposure but not the ambient exposure. So we can use the flash power (or distance to subject) to control the flash exposure without changing the ambient exposure.
So the practical application of this, is to find the right balance between flash & ambient exposure. Going back to your 2:1 ratio, you might want the subject to be one stop brighter than the background. So first you meter your ambient light and dial in setting to underexpose by one stop. Then set your flash power to expose the subject properly. If you are using the flash in TTL mode, you can use FEC to change the flash exposure.