What's a good photographer??
It helps if you know that light drops off at a rate which is inverse to the square of the distance, but it's not essential to seeing or visualising an image.
Here's a picture of the inverse square relationship:
http://hyperphysics.phy-astr.gsu.edu/hbase/vision/isql.html#c1 That's about all you need to know - that light fades more quickly than you might think - not in a steady way, really quickly.
Some maths and chemistry are required for darkroom stuff, but really, what makes a good photographer? Is it their ability to use the cos law, inverse square law and calculate the light intensity drop off ratio of a six-head lighting rig, or is it their ability to think "ooh, bit more light on her hair"? For me, it's suck-it-and-see science - I've got a reasonable grasp of the technicalities, but everything after that is art, experimentation and experience.
Don't be put off. Just force the person you're seeking advice from to explain themselves properly, again and again and again, each with more detail and more examples if necessary.
One day everything clicks and it's fine. Until then it can be a bit frustrating, but persevere - it's worth it!
Rob