You raise a very good point Ferny, that e-mail I sent a while back to the girl that was causing me so much emotional grief. I totally forgot about putting up what happened here.. Essentially she wasn't horrified (good start) and was in fact quite sweet about it. I mistimed the e-mail slightly however it seems as for some reason she got back with her ex shortly before she recieved the mail. I guess thats what I get for having hesitated for over 2 years. However we are better friends than ever and share a great connection. Who's to say that nothing will happen in the future. In fact I had a conversation with her yesterday when she said she wasn't sure that she was getting what she wanted from her current relationship and that maybe the person she should be with has been in front of her for years. However if there's one thing I've learnt from this situation it's don't get your hopes up if something happens then hurrah if not oh well.