"Buying a dslr to use as a big point and shoot will actually result in you getting WORSE photos than an el cheapo point and shoot, due to the slow kit lens."
Could someone explain this to me a little bit more?
What I really want to be able to do is that ability to zoom into for instance something close or the background and have the other blurred. (I hope you understand this). That is really why I wanted to control zoom by my hand...
A DSLR has MANY settings on it, and when used in an auto mode, the camera isn't usually very good at guessing what you want it to do. It will just try to give you a properly exposed image. If you don't have a knowledge of how to use the camera's settings effectively, you are just going to end up with a TON of out of focus, blurry photos that are too dark or too bright. Trust me, my dad got a dslr thinking it would give him better results. He goes around taking photos like he's a professional photographer, yet EVERY photo he takes it out of focus, or blurry, because he never took time to learn how to get the camera out of auto mode. The slow kit lens (18-55) that is included with entry level DSLR's is very limiting. It doesn't offer alot of zoom range, and it is slow, meaning it has a small maximum aperture. This brings up a big issue: in low light, specifically indoors, you won't be able to achieve a fast enough shutter speed, and your photos will blur from camera shake. To counteract this, you'd need to buy a flash unit, or a professional lens with a 2.8 or greater aperture. Both options get expensive pretty fast. So if you can only afford a dslr and kit lens, and no accessories, you won't be happy with your photos for very long. The kit lenses slow aperture also means that you won't be able to blur out the background like you want to, because the lenses aperture controls your depth of field. The wider the aperture, the narrower the DOF, and the more out of focus the background will go. Having a max. aperture of 5.6 severley limits how much you can blur the background out.
Unfortunately, photography is an expensive hobby if you want to achieve good results, and even then, you could spend tens of thousands on a pro camera body and a few lenses, and if you don't know the basics of photography, you would still be better off using a $100 point and shoot, because they are designed to make the decisions for you, where are a DSLR is designed for the user to make the decisions. They have auto mode, but it rarely provides desirable results.