In your example, nothing is in focus, which would lead me to believe the lens was focused close up, and the lights were a decent distance away. The aperture also looks like it was wide open, since the circles are completely round, with no traces of iris blades.
If you wanted a person in focus with this type of background, you need a lens with a large aperture (low minimum f-stop). You should also place the subject relatively close to the camera, and the background lights relatively far away. Even if you don't have a large aperture lens, experiment with subject and background distances to see if you get the effect you're looking for.