i didn't see a option for redeye with back curtain or fill on the 7100. i know the bridge just gives me a choice of one. if i pick red eye i cant to fill or rear curtain or anything.
I am not defending it, I think Red Eye Reduction is a dumb option anyway, counterproductive, unbearable, and likely ineffective.

The only thing we ever hear about it is questions: "Why is my camera doing all this delay and flashing when I use my flash". Answer is to turn Red Eye Reduction off.
The only answer to red eye is to not flash the flash directly into the eye, by instead separating the flash farther from the lens axis. Or to edit it out later.
But... there is a little more to the sync menu options offered.
(Except for Spot metering) the Nikon internal flash is TTL BL mode, which is ALWAYS fill flash mode anyway. The Nikon flash system is balanced fill flash. This is less meaningful indoors when there is no bright ambient to fill. But for the internal flash (and the SB-400 or SB-700 flash), TTL BL is default, and this sync Fill flash menu simply just means "default - excluding all of these other choices". But the other choices do not exclude TTL BL mode, which is default (however Spot Metering mode does).
Why would you want Rear Curtain for portraits? Rear Curtain is only useful for (only does anything when) too-slow shutter speeds will blur ambient continuous lights which the fast flash otherwise stops. This makes the ambient blur trail follow the sharp flash subject, instead of leading it. See D7100 menu E2 for slowest shutter speed allowed with flash if camera modes A or P. Rear Sync also overrides that menu, basically enabling Slow Sync with flash (because Rear Curtain also needs slow shutter to see a blur trail). But if flash is the major light present (if ambient is far underexposed), there will be no blur trails visible, making rear curtain be a moot point. Rear Curtain is for when you WANT TO SEE those blur trails, by using an intentionally slow shutter. An artsy thing, probably not applicable to portraits. There can be border line cases, but Fill flash is really NOT applicable to Rear Curtain blur trails.