Bokeh is the out of focus area, so its the area behind whatever is in focus. It's hard to explain but I hope that helps
I feel really stupid for even wondering, but I'm not sure. I haven't really worked too much with bokeh, but I don't really even know if this picture would count..
Not really, but many people call any OOF background 'bokeh' when what it really is, is Depth-Of-Field (DOF). Bokeh is the visual quality of any out of focus parts of an image. It is not a measurable property, and many disagree on what good bokeh looks like. There are 2 kinds of bokeh: Cream and Hollywood. The quality of the bokeh in the images the OP posted is IMO, poor bokeh, as it's neither creamy nor hollywood.
thanks everyone. I will keep trying until I figure it out. I probably should just tell my wife I need an 80-200 2.8. Surely that will solve my dilemma!