thanks david
as to you bellacat...i am not going to be rude to the parents and say "hey can i use your iron because your fabric sucks and is all wrinkly and will make the photo look like crap on a log"
I need to comment here too...
If it were me photographing the child (and I have) and the parents want something special (and they do... always!), I have the right and duty as the professional that they hired, to tell them that this [the shot or item that they have] might not look well on the page once it's printed.
Why? I think that if I do not take the lead and absolute control (and I'll toot my own horn here, I have been told on many occasions that I am the most respectful, kind and professionally composed photographer that they have ever seen) over the situation, I would fail at my job.
If a surgeon were to do a consult with his patient for the removal of an unnecessary organ and that patient said to him "Here, please use my exacto knife, I just had it sharpened" instead of the scalpel of the doctor would use, I think the doctor would fail his patient.
It is our responsibility and ultimately our images out there for the public to see. I do not want my work tainted by someone that doesn't know what they're doing. I have gone as far as to tell someone before (when I was younger and took every job that came my way) that I would shoot something
BUT do not tell anyone that's my work and if I'm ask, I'll deny ever shooting it in the first place.
This is ultimately your product... your image... your portfolio. Don't settle for substandard work as the sake of pleasing "Momsey and Pop-cicle" (A Wicked reference - great musical by the way).
David