Mav, I love your shots of the little one. How do you do it? Pictures of my kids usually come out really crappy, especially inside. I'm not very comfortable with my flash yet. I use a 430 EX. I suck too much to justify the expense of the 580.
Thanks a lot Mindy!
I'm all self-taught and just shoot and experiment a lot on my own and learn what works the best that way, so unfortunately I can't point you to any good tutorials that I've learned from. But basically... Direct flash stinks. It's ugly and results in the wash-out look. Flash bounced directly up on the ceiling is better, but results in very flat looking photos, and shadows underneath noses and other undesirable places. I love side/wall bounce flashing with the flash. Try angling your flash head so that the light will bounce back into their face, or at least to one side of it biased towards the front. If they're facing you, you can even turn your flash head around 180-degrees to the rear and get some more light that way and it looks great. Beyond that, just shoot lots. Shooting kids is tough since they don't know to hold still, don't know to pose, and don't even know what a camera is, although my daughter recognizes herself when I bring up pictures on my computer or the camera's screen and starts giggling.

Most of what I shoot is so-so or crap. Maybe 1 out of every 10 is pretty nice, if I'm lucky. You have to nail perfect focus, perfect exposure, perfect composition, and perfect expression and posing all at once with a subject that doesn't even know what a camera is, so it's hard. But persistence pays off.
Here's one with the flash facing rearward and up about 45-degrees. The flash was simply adding to light already coming in from the window so it looks completely natural. This was on my D40 with the 18-135 lens at 135mm, f/5.6, 1/125s, and Auto ISO upped it a bit from my base 400 setting to 500. Basically the flash hit max power and it couldn't quite make the exposure, so the Auto ISO made up the difference.
Here's one with the bounce flash heading toward the right and bouncing back. Same exact camera, lens, and exposure.
Flash up and to the left, adding to window light. Back on my D80, at ISO 800, 1/200s, f/2.8 on my 1.8/50mm lens.
D40, 18-55 kit lens, SB-400 mini flash bounced directly up. iso400, f/5.6, probably 55mm, 1/125s. Here bouncing up was OK since she was on her back, and thus no shadows being cast across facial features.
By the way, all of those were post-processed in DxO software with auto-sharpening and lighting and exposure adjustments. The first one I pushed +2 stops from the JPEG and it still blew up to 20x30" and looked great. If you don't post-process your images, just know that that can make a huge difference also.
You can avoid using flash by using ridiculously fast f/1.4 lenses and high ISO, but then your biggest issue will be keeping things in focus since the depth of field is so tiny at f/1.4 apertures. If your kids are moving around that'll be almost impossible, and plus I like having a little more in focus anyways. Stopping the lens down by two stops to f/2.8 will give you more depth of field and have more in focus, but to get the same shutter speed as I was at iso 1600, I'd then need a camera capable of producing acceptable iso 6400 performance which is unreasonable. You're looking at $5000 or more professional bodies for that. No thanks, I'll learn to use the damned flash.
