kitkatdubs said:
how come the background (the trees) aren't more out of focus? She's standing really far from them and i shot this photo at a f/3.5 . what should i be shooting at to have the trees be more out of focus?
The reason the background is not more out of focus is that the focal length of the lens is relatively short, and the camera that made the photo is a relatively small format camera, and the image is what one would call a low-magnification image. So, there are three factors at work. The shorter the lens focal length, and the smaller the camera's film or sensor size, and the lower the magnification, the more depth of field there is.
Assuming an APS-C sensor size d-slr, that size of sensor has pretty deep depth of field compared against say, a 4x5 sheet film camera. A smart phone sensor is so small that it offers tremendously deep depth of field, even when its tiny little 3 to 4mm length lens is wide-open at f/2.8! With your camera, and a lens foal length that is as short as the one you used, when the camera is set up so that it frames a small girl full-length in the foreground and the horizontal orientation shows a 65-foot-wide background area, the "magnification" is pretty low...because 1) the lens is short, and 2)the subject is not really close, but is at a moderate distance. The shot of your daughter is a low-magnifcation, wide-area, short focal length, semi wide-angle type photo. It is very difficult to get shallow depth of field looks with your camera and an aperture of f/3.5 on a semi wide-angle type shot.
To get a family group with an out of focus background, you'd want to do the following in about this numerical order of descending importance 1)place the camera as close as you can, within reason 2)use a wide lens aperture like f/3.5 3) use the longest focal length that you can, within reason 4)have the background as far behind the group as is practical and 5) pose the group fairly tightly and 6)frame the portrait as a vertical, not a horizontal, to force the area covered to be smaller, rather than larger.