The Coffee House

[SquarePeg37 7]

@jcdeboever whose idea was it to buy a RV? Is this her way of telling you she doesn't want that type of retirement lifestyle?

 

[table1349]

Any of you guys have a copy of the wife manual I can borrow, I seem to have misplaced mine. She's a 1959, blonde model. She's a bit out of sorts today and I have 24 hours to get to the bottom of the issue.

I have Sleep Apnea and use a cpap machine having been diagnosed with moderately serious apnea a while back. For years she has been a horrific snorer and I have observed periods where she has stopped breathing in her sleep and times where she gasps so hard she wakes herself up. I have been bugging her for two or three years now to check into it. She finally got tired of me bugging her and mentioned it to our family physician. He sent her to a sleep specialist and the specialist thought that she should take a home study as my wife didn't seem to think there was a problem. She took her home study Monday night.

Yesterday morning they called with her results, She is averaging 66 incidents of apena an hour which puts here in the extremely sever category. When I was tested I was averaging only 26 incidents.

They called her at work and she is going in tonight for an immediate in house study and will not be leaving there in the morning without either a cpap or bipap machine depending on what she needs. This is a life threatening situation and she seems a little put out right now with all the fuss. Perhaps it comes down to not being happy when the husband just happens to be right.

As Norm from cheers used to say, "Women, can't live with them, pass the beer nuts."

 

[table1349]

@jcdeboever whose idea was it to buy a RV? Is this her way of telling you she doesn't want that type of retirement lifestyle?

I'm thinking kind of the same thing. I was wondering if she had watched the movie RV lately.

 

[jcdeboever]

Any of you guys have a copy of the wife manual I can borrow, I seem to have misplaced mine. She's a 1959, blonde model. She's a bit out of sorts today and I have 24 hours to get to the bottom of the issue.

I have Sleep Apnea and use a cpap machine having been diagnosed with moderately serious apnea a while back. For years she has been a horrific snorer and I have observed periods where she has stopped breathing in her sleep and times where she gasps so hard she wakes herself up. I have been bugging her for two or three years now to check into it. She finally got tired of me bugging her and mentioned it to our family physician. He sent her to a sleep specialist and the specialist thought that she should take a home study as my wife didn't seem to think there was a problem. She took her home study Monday night.

Yesterday morning they called with her results, She is averaging 66 incidents of apena an hour which puts here in the extremely sever category. When I was tested I was averaging only 26 incidents.

They called her at work and she is going in tonight for an immediate in house study and will not be leaving there in the morning without either a cpap or bipap machine depending on what she needs. This is a life threatening situation and she seems a little put out right now with all the fuss. Perhaps it comes down to not being happy when the husband just happens to be right.

As Norm from cheers used to say, "Women, can't live with them, pass the beer nuts." [emoji38]

I sleep 2.25 hours per night according to my B Pap, she will need one of those.

 

[smoke665]

Any of you guys have a copy of the wife manual I can borrow,

I'd let you borrow mine, but after I bought it many years ago, I found out the pages were blank. That way they can change them up as they see it. LOL



We go through the same issue here. I had a really bad Sleep Apnea problem that was causing cardiac problems before it I finally found out. So it's not something that should be put off. My wife has an occasional snoring problem that will rattle the windows, but has refused to go for a sleep study. So for now, on the nights it's a problem, a poke in the back will cause her to roll over and quit.

 

[jcdeboever]

@jcdeboever whose idea was it to buy a RV? Is this her way of telling you she doesn't want that type of retirement lifestyle?

I'm thinking kind of the same thing. I was wondering if she had watched the movie RV lately.

Her idea

 

[table1349]

Any of you guys have a copy of the wife manual I can borrow,

I'd let you borrow mine, but after I bought it many years ago, I found out the pages were blank. That way they can change them up as they see it. LOL

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We go through the same issue here. I had a really bad Sleep Apnea problem that was causing cardiac problems before it I finally found out. So it's not something that should be put off. My wife has an occasional snoring problem that will rattle the windows, but has refused to go for a sleep study. So for now, on the nights it's a problem, a poke in the back will cause her to roll over and quit.

This was the one I was looking for. Pretty complete.

I think she is upset because she is going to the Boy Scout Jamboree next month. She is the president of the Local Area Boy Scout Council. She may have to change her sleeping arrangements since there may not be electricity in her tent area.

 

[table1349]

Any of you guys have a copy of the wife manual I can borrow, I seem to have misplaced mine. She's a 1959, blonde model. She's a bit out of sorts today and I have 24 hours to get to the bottom of the issue.

I have Sleep Apnea and use a cpap machine having been diagnosed with moderately serious apnea a while back. For years she has been a horrific snorer and I have observed periods where she has stopped breathing in her sleep and times where she gasps so hard she wakes herself up. I have been bugging her for two or three years now to check into it. She finally got tired of me bugging her and mentioned it to our family physician. He sent her to a sleep specialist and the specialist thought that she should take a home study as my wife didn't seem to think there was a problem. She took her home study Monday night.

Yesterday morning they called with her results, She is averaging 66 incidents of apena an hour which puts here in the extremely sever category. When I was tested I was averaging only 26 incidents.

They called her at work and she is going in tonight for an immediate in house study and will not be leaving there in the morning without either a cpap or bipap machine depending on what she needs. This is a life threatening situation and she seems a little put out right now with all the fuss. Perhaps it comes down to not being happy when the husband just happens to be right.

As Norm from cheers used to say, "Women, can't live with them, pass the beer nuts." [emoji38]

I sleep 2.25 hours per night according to my B Pap, she will need one of those.

We will see what she needs. At her age and health level cpap may well be enough. I know that with my cpap I am averaging 0.3 events and hour now with a setting of 9.

 

[smoke665]

I'm thinking kind of the same thing. I was wondering if she had watched the movie RV lately.

A $1500 purse is nothing compared to the cost of owning an RV. Motorhomes are the worst, you can almost see the dollars flying away as it's value declines. A friend of ours paid $300k 5 years ago for their coach, now health problems are forcing them to sell. So far their best offer has only been $150k. Sadly in 5 more years it will lose another 50%. 5th wheels and diesel trucks are slightly less expensive, and don't have quite the horrendous loss of value, but it can still amount to a lot.

Both of them have yearly cost of ownership, and repairs (there will be repairs) can get expensive. A new A/C unit can run $1k with/labor, a refrigerator upwards of $3k, tires $300+ per tire, etc.

 

[table1349]

We talked about doing the same thing when the wife retires, however after looking into it we have changed our mind. Instead we are looking into the unmoved RV option. There are communities down in Arizona where people buy their very nice RV's and have it delivered there, both motorized and luxury 5th wheels. Difference is, they leave them there. In the winter they go there and live in their RV community and when the weather gets hot the secure the RV up and leave it where it is for the next year. Many of them buy a golf cart for using in the community and either drive their own vehicle or have one that they leave there. With the climate the RV ages very well just sitting there year after year.

 

[smoke665]

Instead we are looking into the unmoved RV option.

We see a few of these type, however they usually are what's called "park model", kind of across between an RV and a mobile home. We've also looked at buying a lot in one of the upscale parks, but unless you use that location frequently association fees make it unfeasible. Our average stay out runs from 10 days to 4 weeks. We like the flexibility of moving when we want.

 

[vintagesnaps]

People around here do that, I have neighbors that go somewhere after the holidays, then they come back... A lot of people just set up a camper at the state park or the lake nearby, end of the summer you see the boats and trailers and campers all coming back for winter storage. I used to like working at summer camp and going camping but not doing that anymore! lol will take the comfort of home. Or some nice indoor room service. Enough of hot dogs and burnt marshmellows on sticks.

I think people just handle things differently Smoke, like a potential medical diagnosis, sometimes it can be worse for people dreading it. Maybe your wife was not exactly wanting to find out how bad it was and that she'll need to use one of those contraptions. It might be different for her than it has been for you so maybe give her time to adjust.

So I thought too that the RVing was the problem JC, I don't know what's up with the spending if you're trying to save/pay off expenses toward an RV she wants. It seems like there's more to it than that anyway. I'd usually think someone would need to figure out if things can be worked out or talk to a marriage counselor etc., but it kind of sounds like you're already thinking about transitioning out of the marriage. Guess you'll have to bring up that you're unhappy and she seems unhappy and you seem to have different plans for the future etc. and see... I don't know, hope something gets resolved.

 

[Frank F.]

Welcome back Frank. You have a long way to go until your dream house is finished ... but at least now you can actually start.

My guess is the house will be ready by Christmas 2018. This is neither ambitious not pessimistic, just a hunch

 

[Frank F.]

No one will ever understand the wife. Wifes are not for understanding. Love them and take them as they are, kind of nicely wrapped gift with unknown content every day afresh. I love mine and I take her as is. We come along best if she reciprocates in this respect: "I use mine up as he is. I will not change him anyways."

When will coffee house be on sale as a book?

An edited version of digestible length could be cover to cover packed with unrivalled wisdom of sorts....

 

[Frank F.]

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