Thanks everybody. My cousin and his wife had already moved to the farm where she still lived after they built on an addition to the farmhouse. So I think after she fell and broke her hip and being in assisted living for a few months there's already been time for some of the grieving and adjusting.
I hadn't seen my cousin last time she was here, but even my brother who saw her I guess within the past year asked where she was, he didn't even see her or recognize her. She had an early diagnosis so has had early treatment, and it has affected her gait but she really is walking pretty well. She's quite thin and lost the natural fullness to her face. I didn't realize it was her til she started talking.
Today I'm just worn out. My brother dropped me back at home since I live 10 min. from the funeral home (and figured I wouldn't be able to do all that tromping around to go out to the cemetary) but still - I am so tired! My hip and thigh were achy last night but OK this morning. The standing is harder than walking.