Oh Ron, I'll gladly sit for portraits for you! Just send me airfare, put me up in a fancy hotel, and get me a good rental car and I'm there! Not sure which Lensbaby you have, meaning model and focal length. My experience is that the Lensbaby's effect depends on a few things, such as subject matter, aperture, and focal length. For example, the side of the dark-colored SUV us a large, rugged, monotone object filling a lot of frame space, so the defocus effect is kind of minimized on smooth, one-toned paint, and the subject itself is "rugged". The subject matter itself is maybe not optimal. The red leaf though has some "angle" to the subject, and has one tone, greenish, then the crimson red leaf, so the defocusing effect totally Pops!
Focal length: I used the Lensbaby classic, which was a 50mm model, with a Nikon 1.4x converter, and also a cheap Tokina 2x converter, and I LIKED it much,much better as a 75mm or 100mm soft-focus lens, and I liked it with the f/4 aperture disc in, because the f/4 aperture disc used a good portion of the OUTER edges of the crappy lens, and I liked the crappy lens performance: un-sharp, lots of chromatic aberration, but a mostly sharp center.
The Lensbaby 2.0 model had a multi-element lens, but had no way to "lock" the lens, and it was a hair-trigger, friggin' nightmare to get the sweet spot positioned, and I junked maybe 85% of the frames I made with it., I HATED THAT MODEL! That model is why the later ones have a mechanism that "sticks in one place", I am convinced!
Anyway, I think soft subjects: kids, cats, plates of food, women, flowers, beach and river scenes, high-key kinda' scenes, that sort of stuff, looks best with the Lensbaby, stuff that is sort of impressionistic, or "romantic", and so on. I think some subjects do not lend themselves well to Lensbaby effects. But again, it does take some practice. Maybe try it on a nice sandwich, cut in half, plated, and with a beverage nearby, or something romanticized, like a steaming bowl of oatmeal and some buttered toast on a side plate. Or try it with a telephoto converter added, which seems to exaggerate the effect a bit, and is, well, more telephoto.