It could be my monitor, but in my opinion, the highlights in #3 are fine and I don't find them distracting at all. What bothers me though is what seems to be excessive burning which creates an uneven looking light throughout the image. I think that you should go back and reprocess #3 because I think it would make a wonderful image without/less of the processing. I also see the literature the man is holding as a very important part of the photo which gives it content and meaning. Try to draw more attention to it by making it lighter/less burning.
I also see the burning problem in #2 where it looks like you tried to save the sky, but in my own opinion the image was not well composed. My eye darts around from the negative space in the center to the building at top left and then down to the structures at the bottom right. It doesn't seem to have a subject.
Similar to #'s 2 and 3, #1 looks overprocessed. There seems to be too much sharpening which has caused the bokeh in the background to be overly distracting. My eye is drawn to it despite the expression on your subject's face. =] It also seems like the faces could stand to be lighter/have less contrast.
Overall, I think #3 is my favorite followed by #1 and then #2.