Same -- I think the sharpening really helps (do you?). As with all things, sharpening correctly takes some practice and skill, but you will get that as you experiment.
On the strawberry image, however, your flower is definitely out of focus ... that is a DOF issue as your foreground strawberry is fine. This is certainly NOT camera shake. It is my guess that you have your lens wide open (wide aperture) giving you extremely shallow DOF.
Keep shooting! I should mention that I went through the same learning curve. I had no idea that shooting in RAW had an effect on image sharpness and I kept getting comments that my images were 'soft'. It drove me crazy and no one helped. I happened upon the solution one day by accident when I was reading something on the web.