The softness of a light is determined by it's size in relation to the subject...it's relative size.
For example, the reason that an umbrella makes a light softer, is that from the subject's perspective, the light goes from the size of the flash head, to the size of the umbrella (or the area of the fabric that the light is hitting). But the other way to make something larger, relative to the subject, is to move it closer.
So yes, you are making the light softer by using the umbrella, but because it's so far away from the subject, it's still a very hard light on your subject. Also, an umbrella spreads light out, much wider than you'll need for a person (in most cases). At at 20' feet away, you're light is probably wide enough for a 30' tall person....and because your person is person sized, the rest of that light is wasted. In fact, I'm thinking that at 1/64 power, through an umbrella and 20 feet away...so very little of that light is actually getting to your subject, that you would need exptreme exposure settings.
So, the moral of the story is that if you want soft light, you need to make your light a large as possible, in relation to the subject. So using an umbrella is good, but you also want it to be as close to the subject as possible. Most time, our umbrella or softbox is as close as we can get it, before it gets into the frame....sometimes it's in the frame and we crop it off later.
If you can't get the light any closer than 20'...then your only option for softness would be to make it very, very large.