its other people's photos too. Like
http://www.thephotoforum.com/forum/people-photography/152301-do-you-like-better.html
to me the girl is
neon orange in all but the first photo.
I wouldn't quite call it "neon" but it does have a "Copper Tone" look to the few that are showing. (do they still make that stuff?)
... ANYONE know how to fix the color/brightness with the internet only? Yes, everyone thinks I am insane, but I swear! I am not slow, before calibration internet photos seemed mostly fine. Now things look good in PS or lightroom and look way off on the internet (anything from smugmug to any webpage to photobucket)
It sounds like your editor is using a different color profile from your computer, which from what little I've seen, is common. That is to say that many folks take the time to set up their editor for proper color but don't spend (or even think of) time setting up the computer in general.
You can check this by (this is for XP Pro) right clicking on empty space on your Desktop to bring up Display Properties.
Now click on Settings, then on the Advanced button.
In this dialog window, click on Color Management, and see the list of registered profiles, and which one is the default / current profile.
That should match your editor profile, assuming it is using the right profile.
Things do get screwy sometimes. For instance, I've never had a problem with losing my color profile but after my most recent computer update (basically a new build) whenever I fire up my editor, I lose my "desktop" profile, which means "other things," like the Web, now don't look right. I have to reset the Desktop profile after opening the editor... One of life's little annoyances.
HTH