My wife says I stole her passion

[Carny]

By "stealing her passion" does she simply mean you took the fun out of it? I have a tendency to do the same with my wife. I've been encouraging her to be interested in photography and play around with my camera a bit but I am careful not to bore her with a bunch of tech stuff. If she feels like it is a high tech complicated thing to take pictures, she won't do it. Instead, I just offer help if she asks or tell her adjustments she can make to get the results she wants, again being careful not to be critical and grade every shot. If I started talking about exposure, f stops, iso, etc, her eyes glaze over in two seconds. I'm a bit of a techno geek so I want to understand the mechanics behind everything. I don't know if this applies to you, but it may be something to think about.

Of course, maybe you are getting better than her and she is a bit jealous. The family photographer was her role and maybe she feels like you are taking that from her. Or, there could be some other underlying cause and this is just an outlet for her to express her feelings. One thing you can be sure of though, is that being a woman there is a very good chance that even SHE doesn't know what's wrong, lol.

Joking aside, marriage counseling is not a sign of failure. It shows that you care enough about your marriage to put some effort into it and make it work.

I'm not suggesting you need counseling for this, but it's not a bad idea for any couple.

 

[subscuck]

This drama-drivel really belongs in Off Topic, not Beginner's.

 

[Village Idiot]

This drama-drivel really belongs in Off Topic, not The Dumping Ground.

FTFY.

 

[manaheim]

Tell her to get in the kitchen and make you a sandwich.

 

[Derrel]

Honestly, not to be mean but she's acting like a child. I would be ecstatic if my husband showed any interest in photography!

Indeed, a very child-like point of view is being displayed by your wife. That is the way siblings are forced to "divide up" and slide into prescribed roles within a family. Sally plays the violin; Mary plays the flute; Michael plays drums;Anthony sings. Her attitude that **you** stole her passion because she was involved with photography **first** is a child-like way of looking at life. Seriously.

 

[ghache]

Are you ****in kidding me. The other day you start up a thread about you being jealous of you friend for starting up a photography business. Now your wife says you stole her passion...WTF? You guys surely fits well together, you guys have issues.....why dont you stop posting your childish drama here. we dont give a damn about it,

This is a photography forum, post some pictures or valuable information or skip the create a thread button. In real life, i try to stay away from people like you.

 

[gsgary]

I think she is being very petty, tell her to get a life or another camera so you can go out together

 

[Aye-non Oh-non Imus]

It's the Onion theory. You'll have to peel back several layers to get to the truth. It has nothing to do with a camera,

 

[Kbarredo]

Are you ****in kidding me. The other day you start up a thread about you being jealous of you friend for starting up a photography business. Now your wife says you stole her passion...WTF? You guys surely fits well together, you guys have issues.....why dont you stop posting your childish drama here. we dont give a damn about it,

This is a photography forum, post some pictures or valuable information or skip the create a thread button. In real life, i try to stay away from people like you.

Difference is my friend isn't better than me. but on the internet you go out of your way to engage with people like me.funny how that works.

 

[ghache]

Are you ****in kidding me. The other day you start up a thread about you being jealous of you friend for starting up a photography business. Now your wife says you stole her passion...WTF? You guys surely fits well together, you guys have issues.....why dont you stop posting your childish drama here. we dont give a damn about it,

This is a photography forum, post some pictures or valuable information or skip the create a thread button. In real life, i try to stay away from people like you.

Difference is my friend isn't better than me. but on the internet you go out of your way to engage with people like me.funny how that works.

AGAIN.

 

[FireRunner]

Not trying to judge your relationship, but that response from her does not sound very mature. Sounds like something two kids in high school would say. You enjoying photography has nothing to do with her not being able to. As the above states, get her a SLR and see if she starts picking it up as a serious interest.

Also, you may want to find a more suitable message board to post this type of content.

 

[SrBiscuit]

*yawn*

post some photos.

 

[burdock87]

Honestly, not to be mean but she's acting like a child. I would be ecstatic if my husband showed any interest in photography!

I don't know your wife, but I have to agree. But, being a woman, I have been there too. My boyfriend tries to tell me how to train my horse (after saying he has no interest in horses); it makes me not want to do it anymore. In her defense, some men can come off as sounding "know it all." They mean well (like my boyfriend) and they want to share things they have read/seen (youtube, or Clinton Anderson...lol) and instead of it being taken as some great advice, it is taken as "I know more than you, and here's why."

I say keep encouraging her, or take her out on a shoot to photograph things she likes. And then, maybe try to give her some hints or tricks you have learned that might make her photos even better.

 

[ghache]

Honestly, not to be mean but she's acting like a child. I would be ecstatic if my husband showed any interest in photography!

I don't know your wife, but I have to agree. But, being a woman, I have been there too. My boyfriend tries to tell me how to train my horse (after saying he has no interest in horses); it makes me not want to do it anymore. In her defense, some men can come off as sounding "know it all." They mean well (like my boyfriend) and they want to share things they have read/seen (youtube, or Clinton Anderson...lol) and instead of it being taken as some great advice, it is taken as "I know more than you, and here's why."

I say keep encouraging her, or take her out on a shoot to photograph things she likes. And then, maybe try to give her some hints or tricks you have learned that might make her photos even better.

Well, i dont think the wife is the one to blame. The OP is probably the one to blame

 

[PhotoTish]

Your recent worries over your friend/co-worker and now tension in your marriage and in both instances the cause is photography. I hope this doesn't come across as mean but, as photography appears to be bringing you nothing but angst, perhaps you should find another hobby?