When I take portraits and use my 50mm I have it set to f4 and set the subjects about 5-6 feet from the back drop. They are completely in focus and the back drop is slightly blurred. Focus on the eyes.
I've tried 2.8 with close ups and full body and I haven't gotten all of them in focus. If you want more blur, use f4 and bring them out from the back drop more.
That will not mean very much, as you are missing one very important part of the equation... the distance YOU are from the subject.
If you do not change anything on the camera and keep the subject the same distance from the backdrop, but *you* move further away from the subject, you get increased DOF. If you move closer to your subject, you get a shallower DOF, even if you change nothing on the camera. The reason is the change in ratio between distance from you to the subject and the distance from the subject to the backdrop.
Its all in the ratio of:
- F-stop used
- distance from you to the camera
- the distance of the subject to whatever is behind it that you want to blur (backdrop or whatever).
And more bokeh (background blur) happens when you use a
NUMERICALLY SMALLER aperture, not a numerically larger one. F/2.8 will always "blur" more than a F/4 in any given case where all other things are the same, not the other way around as you state.
This is a picture at F/8... note how clear the tree is in the background:
This is a picture at F/1.4 (known as a WIDER aperture). Note the blurred background: