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[tirediron]

So...yesterday I told Princess to skip field hockey practice because

1- it was 95 and hunid as hell at 4pm
2- we had a houseful of guests and she was enjoying visiting with her cousins
3- it was a holiday and I wasn’t thrilled with them scheduling a practice to begin with

There’s a game today followed by a meeting with the coaches for the parents. I’m sure she’ll be benched for the game or at least for the first quarter. Although the number of girls on the team doesn’t really support having girls sit out. It will be an interesting parents meeting afterwards.

As someone who has coached kids for years in our rec softball league, I try to respect the coaches who volunteer and work with my daughter but with the heat we’ve had for the last few weeks and all of the running they’ve had them doing in 90+ temps, it will be hard for me not to call out the coach if she gives me any bs about my decision yesterday.

That's called conditioning...

 

[Gary A.]

So...yesterday I told Princess to skip field hockey practice because

1- it was 95 and hunid as hell at 4pm
2- we had a houseful of guests and she was enjoying visiting with her cousins
3- it was a holiday and I wasn’t thrilled with them scheduling a practice to begin with

There’s a game today followed by a meeting with the coaches for the parents. I’m sure she’ll be benched for the game or at least for the first quarter. Although the number of girls on the team doesn’t really support having girls sit out. It will be an interesting parents meeting afterwards.

As someone who has coached kids for years in our rec softball league, I try to respect the coaches who volunteer and work with my daughter but with the heat we’ve had for the last few weeks and all of the running they’ve had them doing in 90+ temps, it will be hard for me not to call out the coach if she gives me any bs about my decision yesterday.

Calling practice on a holiday is BS. But, as you already know, the coach can't have parents overriding their decisions. Good luck on this one.

 

[JonA_CT]

I sat out the first quarter of a playoff game for football my senior year because I missed the final walkthrough because of my brother's wedding. So there's that, haha.

 

[SquarePeg]

As the parent, I’ll over ride any decision that I feel is necessary. I am ultimately responsible for my child’s health and safety. Anyone who puts sports ahead of that can go fly a kite for all I care.

It’s not “conditioning” to risk their health running sprints in heat that has been deemed unsafe to be outside in. Most other towns and other sports canceled practices and games last week. No other teams has practice over the holiday weekend.

Teaching young people that sports should take priority over a brothers weddzing is ridiculous.

If I wouldn’t let my dog run around in that heat, why would I let my child?

 

[tirediron]

If I wouldn’t let my dog run around in that heat, why would I let my child?

'Cause your dog isn't likely to crash the car, stay out after curfew, get caught on the living room couch with a boy....

 

[davidharmier60]

Whew. 4.33 yesterday. Enough today for 10.49 hours for the week so far.
A hole in the siding. A bottle of expanding foam. A hole freaking bottle and still some light leaks. Had enough.
Going to People's Bank before PO and then the box at the front of the neighborhood and then home.

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[waday]

If I wouldn’t let my dog run around in that heat, why would I let my child?

'Cause your dog isn't likely to crash the car, stay out after curfew, get caught on the living room couch with a boy....

That would be a bad dog. A very bad dog!

If I wouldn’t let my dog run around in that heat

Same. I feel bad for Roxy, because I haven't been able to take her on long afternoon walks recently. It's either raining or terribly hot.

 

[terri53]

If I wouldn’t let my dog run around in that heat, why would I let my child?

'Cause your dog isn't likely to crash the car, stay out after curfew, get caught on the living room couch with a boy....

What does one have to do with the other? Seriously, that's a lame comment.

Her daughter is certainly old enough to appreciate potential consequences of her actions. And for all you know, several parents opted out of practice due to the excessive heat and humidity, not to mention the poor decision to schedule it on a US holiday. Hardly a shocker.

 

[davidharmier60]

Forgot one stop. The Library. Got some more John Sandford and a W.E.B. Griffin.
And a very VERY bad dog indeed would wreck a car.

 

[smoke665]

@SquarePeg three kids heavily involved in sports from the time they were old enough all the way through school. Not sure it's the same there as it is here, but the competitiveness of sports is way over the top at most k12 schools. I believe that sports builds character, and conditions kids for life, but the extreme the adults take (parents and coaches) gets to be to much. When my granddaughter was a senior in high school (after playing competitive soccer for years) did some refereeing for a little extra money with the grade school leagues. She finally had to quit because she couldn't tolerate being cussed out by parents. Yes coaches give of their time, but that doesn't make them gods, they should use some common sense when scheduling.

 

[waday]

Does anyone know what happened to @KenC?

He hasn't been around in a long time (~January 2017). Just wondering if anyone has seen/heard from him.

 

[SquarePeg]

@SquarePeg three kids heavily involved in sports from the time they were old enough all the way through school. Not sure it's the same there as it is here, but the competitiveness of sports is way over the top at most k12 schools. I believe that sports builds character, and conditions kids for life, but the extreme the adults take (parents and coaches) gets to be to much. When my granddaughter was a senior in high school (after playing competitive soccer for years) did some refereeing for a little extra money with the grade school leagues. She finally had to quit because she couldn't tolerate being cussed out by parents. Yes coaches give of their time, but that doesn't make them gods, they should use some common sense when scheduling.

Agree. The level of commitment they expect for HS sports is so unrealistic. I love that team sports build relationships and lasting friendships and teach teamwork and responsibility but I already told Princess that we’re not drinking the koolaide and letting it rule our lives.

Many parents have unrealistic thoughts of scholarships and many coaches are in it to win it and not to educate and develop the players. Our city is a very competitive sports town with several 1st or 2nd place finishes in state championships for football, volleyball, girls basketball, lacrosse etc and many of these parents are more into it than the kids.

 

[davidharmier60]

I don't have kids. Not even accidentally. So I have no dog in this fight.
But I know if I did in this heat and humidity.....

 

[dxqcanada1]

Interested in sharing the Korean BBQ recipe? I had a great one but haven’t made it in years and have apparently lost it and can’t quite get it right now.

Hmm, I am going to be making marinate for Kalbi today.



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[Gary A.]

@SquarePeg three kids heavily involved in sports from the time they were old enough all the way through school. Not sure it's the same there as it is here, but the competitiveness of sports is way over the top at most k12 schools. I believe that sports builds character, and conditions kids for life, but the extreme the adults take (parents and coaches) gets to be to much. When my granddaughter was a senior in high school (after playing competitive soccer for years) did some refereeing for a little extra money with the grade school leagues. She finally had to quit because she couldn't tolerate being cussed out by parents. Yes coaches give of their time, but that doesn't make them gods, they should use some common sense when scheduling.

Agree. The level of commitment they expect for HS sports is so unrealistic. I love that team sports build relationships and lasting friendships and teach teamwork and responsibility but I already told Princess that we’re not drinking the koolaide and letting it rule our lives.

Many parents have unrealistic thoughts of scholarships and many coaches are in it to win it and not to educate and develop the players. Our city is a very competitive sports town with several 1st or 2nd place finishes in state championships for football, volleyball, girls basketball, lacrosse etc and many of these parents are more into it than the kids.

Agreed. Sports, when I was growing up, sportsmanship was equally as important as competition. Yes, winning made it all more fun, but, if you played your best ... losing was not shameful ... losing is never good but not shameful as what I often see now with kids. I played a ton of sports through college and beyond. In high school, because the coaches job depended upon winning, things got significantly more intense and serious. Back when I was a kid in little league, basketball, flag football ... I remember parents only cheering and encouraging good play and not sidelining. Today, things seem to be sooo different. When Mary Lou's granddaughter Ava started AYSO when she was five y/o or so ... Ava's mother wanted Ava to be outfitted with Predator cleats. Predator's start around $100 and go as high as $400 a pair. But I digress.

Today, many parents seem only to care about winning ... winning is not only the most important thing but the only thing, regardless of age. Gary has observed this first hand for decades. Between Mary Lou's kids and Gary's kids, he and Mary Lou spend nearly every weekend on a couple days a week on the pitch or at the pool (Gary's kids swam competitively).

Sarah digging in.

Amy diving in.

Mary Lou's youngest son Steven beat a defender.

The coaches Gary had in college all stressed academics first and sports second ... even though their jobs were on the line. Mary Lou's eldest son made the Olympic Development Team in soccer. His entire life was soccer ... unfortunately, that's pretty much all he knows ...