"BETTER" needs a definition if it is to have meaning, I think that may be what is confusing you Hair Bear.
As an example...if you want a lightweight lens for shooting relatively slow objects in sunlight/flash, such as family picnics, then the 18-135 kit lens actually is better than many expensive alternatives.
Now, OTOH if you are shooting sporting events, planes, auto racing and such then the 18-135 will come up short to other choices. It won't have the reach of an 80-200 F2.8 to get you up close. You will also lose 2 stops of light. This means that under the exact same conditions I can shoot the same moving object at 4 times as fast a shutter speed as the 18-135. IOW I can shoot at 1/1000 under the same light that you shoot at 1/250. The shallower depth of field from 2 stops more aperture will also give my photos more pop. As a trade off the "BETTER" lens will cost more and by nature weigh more, largely because the front element has to be much larger.
At the same time if you were wanting to take wide angle panorama views your 18-135 would again be "BETTER" than the 80-200. An even "BETTER" choice would be a 12-24 F4.
As to brands, I don't believe that anyone makes "BETTER" glass than Nikon...but all glass is not equal. Here are some things to look for, and why.
WIDE APERTURE: If everything else is equal then a lens with a larger aperture (smaller F number) will be the "BETTER" lens. Why? It can work at faster shutter speeds in the same light. It can work in lower light. It gives your photos more pop from shallow DOF.
APOCHROMATIC GLASS: This is the big one. Apochromatic glass is known under several names. Canon calls it L glass. Sigma calls it APO. Nikon calls it ED (Extra low dispersion). This type of glass is much harder than regular glass which makes it more abuse resistant and heavier. The mfring process requires that impurities and bubbles are as absent as modern tech allows. It also solves a huge problem in photography. Not all colors of light focus at the exact same point on the film/CCD plane. This leads to color fringing. The longer the telephoto the more obvious it becomes. Apochromatic glass is pure and it focuses all the colors of the spectrum at the same point on the film/CCD plane.
My main lenses and their use:
Nikon 300MM F4 ED. Great lens for wildlife, planes, etcetera. 5%.
Nikon 80-200 F2.8 ED. Great for sporting events. 20%.
Nikon 50MM F1.8. Dazzling performance and extremely fast. 10%.
Nikon 28-105. Great walking around all purpose lens. 35%.
Nikon 18-55 ED. Same as above but a little wider and shorter. 30%.
I hope this has helped instead of confused the issue.
LWW