OK this is what it said (I did what you told me, thank-you I didnt know I could do that) A 1/60 F5.6 ISO400 55mm---it just dont seem like enough blur to me---also in order to get the little bit of blur that I am getting I have to get super close to the subject that I am focusing on---does this sound right??
Sounds like your shooting indoors with those settings.
At
Online Depth of Field Calculator and plugging in f/5.6, 55 mm focal length, and a focal point 10 feet from the plane of the image sensor the total DOF is only 2.27 feet deep, with 1.01 feet of the total DOF in front of the focal point, and 1.26 feet of the total DOF behind the focal point.
The near limit of the DOF is 8.99 feet from the image sensor and the far limit is the 10 feet to the focal point
plus the 1.26 feet behind the focal point already mentioned, ot 11.3 feet from the image sensor.
So you would want the background 20 feet or more behind your focal point which means 30 feet from the image sensor to the background. That would be tough to pull off in a house.
Getting 2 feet closer to the focal point reduces the total DOF by 0.83 feet (10", 4.3" front of the focus point, 5.7" behind the focus point. )
But, you start getting to f/1.4 and f/1.8 lenses and the DOF starts getting real shallow and it gets hard to get everything you want in focus, inside that razor thin, narrow DOF.
At f/4 and 8 feet the total DOF is only 12". At f/2.8 and 8 feet the total DOF drops to just 8.5" and it's hard to have the eyes, ears, and the nose of just one person all in focus, and that's if they are facing straight on to the camera so all those features are in a plane parallel to the image sensor.
In other words all these recommendations to be using 35 mm and 50 mm lenses have to be considered carefully.
The better way to go is a
longer focal length, because the longer focal length has the same DOF if image sacle is maintained but you have to move back from the focal point, and because of what happens to perspective when you us a longer focal length, that makes the background seem
closer to the focal point. In other words the blurry background gets magnified.
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