nickzou
No longer a newbie, moving up!
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I only like negative C&C. Sometimes there's a misunderstand when I ask for clarification or ask for a more indepth comment it comes off as being defensive but that's not how I mean it. I generally need a little more to go on sometimes, vague statements of "oh I don't like how you did this" is useless to me, I'd rather be hearing "this is working, you should do this" that's great advice that's all I want to here. I don't like positive C&C, because first of all, that's not criticism, and second I feel as though if you can't see flaws in my work anymore, you're opinion isn't worth anything to me and I stop respecting you. It was about the time that I noticed in high school where my art teacher, who had been very strict and demanding of me in the first two years finally started to lighten up and give me praise. I looked back on my previous work and my then current work, and the looked at her work and realized she had nothing to offer in terms of tutelage anymore. At which point I basically stopped listening to her. Which is why I love it here, because no one is inclined to give good comments even if they think the work is good, they just find whatever little flaw is in there and focus on that. Which I find immensely helpful and as long as the criticism makes sense to me, you have to be critical of your own work too and think for yourself, I appreciate negative C&C more than just blatant praise.
I had another experience of this through Muay Thai. There was this trainer who was always giving me a hard time but after half a year I noticed how much stronger my kick was and how much better my timing was. At that point I realized, he as a trainer had no more to offer me because I had basically caught up to him to which I eventually just started ignoring his praise and found myself a more advanced fighter to help me out. Trust me, there's nothing more stifling than idle praise. Cut those people loose, I tend not to associate much with people who have in the past given me praise (NEVER TRUST your parents' or spouse's opinions unless they are actually willing to correct you), it does nothing but cloud your judgement and boost your ego.
I had another experience of this through Muay Thai. There was this trainer who was always giving me a hard time but after half a year I noticed how much stronger my kick was and how much better my timing was. At that point I realized, he as a trainer had no more to offer me because I had basically caught up to him to which I eventually just started ignoring his praise and found myself a more advanced fighter to help me out. Trust me, there's nothing more stifling than idle praise. Cut those people loose, I tend not to associate much with people who have in the past given me praise (NEVER TRUST your parents' or spouse's opinions unless they are actually willing to correct you), it does nothing but cloud your judgement and boost your ego.