Hot button topics are going to keep this forum alive and allow everyone equal opportunity to voice their opinions.
"hot button" topics are often areas of dissent and disagreement which is why they often spiral out of control - when they do its all lumped upon moderators to have to way in and try and sort things out. Honestly we HATE having topics that we have to keep a close eye upon or that we have to keep dipping in and out of to remove comments or administer warnings to keep things from falling apart.
We also dislike that we have to restrict discussion on certain topics to the subscribers section (topics such as politics, religion, heck we've even been forced to add guns to that segment).
As I said the thread in question was simply rehashing old ground between members; airing views that they've shared before commonly and whilst the thread wasn't as yet down the drain I had difficulty seeing where else it was going to head. Weddings is a hotbutton topic that often, if left untouched, will simply spiral down into a general hate thread - akin to how natural light photographer threads can often go as well.
Whilst I do respect that not everyone must like everyone else, I do expect that members of the community can retain a level of respect for each other and for different groups present.
That said we are not draconian in our moves - if members strongly feel that the thread in question was closed too pre-emptily and that it could continue along a positive line that wouldn't just spiral down into ranting/hate then by all means make the case for it. We can unlock things as well as lock them if given reason do to so.