actually, i like all women. i may show my attraction in different ways, but the way i value one does not diminish from the way i value another. and always, deep down and first and foremost, it is the very core of their being, their femininity, that is constant; it is this that i love so much about them.
that being said, if your guy goes nuts over a slut, it does not necessarily mean he has any less feeling or any different feeling for you. a slut is so defined because she exudes sexual allure, and that's all he's reacting to. now, i'm well aware that such a response often hurts your feelings, cause you're probably asking yourself: "what, am i not good enough for him? i give him my heart with no reservations, and yet he's attracted to that
slut???!!!"
am i right?
truth is, it's all hormonal. it is a chemical reaction within a male body, a reaction that took millions of years of evolution to perfect. if it were not for this response, people like us would have never evolved in the first place, for it is this response that leads to coitus and thus reproduction.
now, if you ask your man to never have these reactions, you are asking him to go against nature's very plan. all men are slaves to this reaction, hence we often are accused of thinking with our little head instead of the one on our shoulders. and you know what? too often, it is true. some of us are just better at resisting the inbred response, but mostly it's just that some of us are better at hiding it from you women. we all suffer the same malediction together!
what you might want to try is accepting the response for the biological reaction that it is. don't be offended by it, understand it. once you think about it this way, maybe you wont feel threatened. tease him a little, (depending on the guy, be sure not to tease too much- you might get too powerful a reaction- use your judgement here) by "joining" him in his reaction- say something to the effect- "ya, she is pretty hot.... wouldn't ya love to get a piece of that? too bad you're mine tho. i don't care where you get your appetite, honey, just so long as you come home to me for dinner."
or something along those lines. be firm, tho, in letting him know the limits- he can let his eyes roam, but that's
all that may roam.
even bust his chops about being that hormone slave, but be sure to do it with a healthy dose of humor, and don't humiliate or embarrass him, cause then all he'll do is get defensive and do something stupid.
now, if you have any doubt that you can pull this off, don't even try it. you have to be pretty secure with yourself to do this, it requires you to be the brave one. but if you can have that kind of relationship, believe me, there'll a lot less stress on both of you.
good luck.
