So here goes a very silly question. How do I get a shallow depth of field if I'm shooting a couple (outside)? I've only shot single subjects and I have always shot wide open. So I'm going to go try different settings to try to figure out how to get both subjects sharp but yet blur my back ground. I tried f-4 60th with an ocf F-4 to try and blur my background and 60th to get ambient light (in a room) but my subjects weren't sharp. I am going to go out tomorrow and use my 80-200 at like 5.6 to see what I can get. any help with this would be highly appreciated.
When you've dialed your aperture to wide open and your shutter speed to a speed that allows you to capture the ambient light correctly with that wide open aperture, but that shutter speed isn't fast enough to prevent blur from camera shake, you need to modify your camera's stability to compensate.
That means shooting from a tripod or other stable platform, if possible. If nothing else, find something to lean on or brace yourself against, like a chair or table or wall (if indoors). Hold your arms in tightly to your body when shooting. Take a deep breath, let half out, then squeeze the trigger, rather than stab at it with your finger. I also recall this trick and, though I've never actually tried it myself, it might help you:
Outdoors during the day, your shutter speed with a wide open aperture will likely be fast enough to get you what you want without stability issues. If that turns out not to be true, the same stability solutions as above apply, replacing chairs, tables and walls with trees, car hoods or doors, sign posts, picnic tables, or even a prone position on the ground with the elbows acting like tripod feet.
Shooting from further away with a longer lens works as long as your background from subject is far enough away also. No matter which lens you choose though, besides shooting wide open on the aperture, get as close as possible to the subject as defined by the framing, and get the background as far away from the subject as possible. That will allow you to achieve the shallow depth of field look you desire that sets your subject apart from the background.