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But I tend to be careful about commenting on boudoir photos, partly because it's hard to be appreciative and yet not come across as a misogynistic prig.
How does saying you want to
a booty like that make you a misogynistic prig?
Because I'm a guy. And the line between leering and admiring can be a very thin one. I'm a very lucky guy in that I'm married to a beautiful woman, I have three healthy and drop-dead gorgeous adult daughters, plus my sister-in-laws are similarly very good-looking, and I've seen/heard how men often comment on them in inappropriate and frankly demeaning ways. Called on it, most will say that they're just being complimentary - and yet the crudeness in which this "compliment" is expressed crosses the line.
There is a difference between sexuality and sensuality. My wife and I have taken many photos of each other (to the bemusement of our "kids") and there's not much hidden (and no, I'm not sharing these). But these are emphasizing curve and shape, highlights and shadows, and it is not always obvious who is the subject in the photo. My wife is also a studio artist with many drawings and paintings of nude models, and some of those sketches and paintings are on our walls. But in all of this, there's a difference between a representation that is complimentary, and one that is essentially exploitative. And when a person (like me) makes a comment, another person may not always know the context and the perspective from which the comment is made. So I tend to be careful.
It sucks sometimes when I can't say things the way I wish I could. Thank goodness I can say or think them under my breath. Pretty much had to give up FB because I got tired of holding back. Pretty good at holding back on TPF too. Hope I never feel like I have to give it up also; or take extended breaks from it.
Sometimes your gotta get your freak on
make it hurt so bad, 'cause it feels so good when you stop