Divorce Issue on some Camera equipment.

[astroNikon]

since you have a photography business, you can make a gripe to your lawyer that without all of your equipment, your business is being affected, thus your income.
There's nothing more needed to get the other's lawyer and judge on edge as one's income being affected due to another's actions ...

the reason to use your lawyer ... then it is all documented.

 

[TheNevadanStig]

I had to go through something like this many years ago. First make a list of everything that is still yours. Contact her with the list and inform her that if she does not let you retrieve your belongings in 48 hours you will contact the police and report them stolen. If she still does not let you in to get the stuff, call the police. They will come and perform a civil (forgot exactly what it is called) something or other and escort/observe while you retrieve your stuff, in which she may even be arrested/charged. Normally the official threat of that in the first place works.

 

[SnappingShark]

EVERYTHING through a lawyer. EVERYTHING.

yeah it'll cost you more, but it'll cost you even MORE if you don't.

 

[JacaRanda]

Hi everyone.


Ok well i was in court today with my ex wife and we both live in separate homes but my old home where my wife is currently living is owned by the both of us the court granted her custody of the home which i was fighting against.

Ok here's the problem.

I just borrowed a 200-400mm canon lens on cps eval and they delivered it to her house because that where the equipment insurance policy address is and where my canon ships too. Normally my ex all was gives me things that ship there but since she won the house she wont now.

Now because she has the home, She wont grant me access to my lens that was sent there or my other things that where still there. She cant do any thing with my stuff because she is ordered not to touch or sell it.

We have a court date to split our assets 2 months from now and we cant get a sooner date.

So my question is this?

Is canon cps going to flip out because i cant send them there lens back nor can my wife send it back because we are ordered not to sell any thing and she thinks i am going to sell it. plus she knows what its worth. She says its staying in the box till me go to court to sort it out.

I have no problem paying for the lens but if go spending 13,000.00 from my account the judge will not be happy because my ex will say i am trying spend all of our money witch its my money so she wont have any thing so go after.

I am going to call canon today and see what they say.


Has any one ever dealt with canon cps and not been able to return cps evaluation item? if so what do they do?>


Ooo this makes me so mad.

Ok thanks

Ok, divorce sucks. My suggestion, contact your soon to be ex. Explain to her that if you can't return the lens that you will end up having to purchase it, and that in a property settlement their won't be any way to "split" the lens. So tell her that you think the best solution would be to return the lens. Since there is obviously a bit of a trust issue here and you don't want her violating any kind of court order by having her return the lens, tell her that you would like to arrange a time when you can get together with her, box the lens up for reshipment and drop it off at the Post office/UPS/Fed ex together, that way she knows and can verify that you returned the lens.

Explain to her that the only alternative is that you wind up being charged for the lens because your not able to return it. I know it might be difficult but try not to open any other arguments or head off on any tangents, just try to stay on topic about the lens and deal with just that one issue.

I'll keep my fingers crossed.

Nooooooooo…do NOT contact the Ex! I had one of THOSE Exes…if they are being that hostile, there is absolutely NOTHING you can do or say that isn't going to make this worse.

I agree with Designer and Astro; contact your lawyer and do ONLY what HE/SHE says to do about it.

My thoughts exactly (still have not read the rest of your post).

Do not contact her directly for anything until you can get into court. Do it all through your lawyer if you have one.

 

[sm4him]

EVERYTHING through a lawyer. EVERYTHING.

yeah it'll cost you more, but it'll cost you even MORE if you don't.

^THAT. So very, very much, THAT.

Seriously, you don't have kids with her do you? That would change things, but if there are no kids involved…Do. NOT. Speak. To. Her.
Do. NOT. Write. To. Her. By all that is good and kind in this WORLD, do not WRITE to her…not so much as a post-it note.
Do not say or do anything in respect to her unless you have run it past your lawyer. Because otherwise, seriously, someone who is clearly making it their choice to be this hostile, they WILL twist it, turn it and do everything possible to use it against you.

Just stay completely away from her, unless advised to contact her by your lawyer, until after this is legally resolved. Do EVERYTHING through legal channels.

 

[JacaRanda]

EVERYTHING through a lawyer. EVERYTHING.

yeah it'll cost you more, but it'll cost you even MORE if you don't.

^THAT. So very, very much, THAT.

Seriously, you don't have kids with her do you? That would change things, but if there are no kids involved…Do. NOT. Speak. To. Her.
Do. NOT. Write. To. Her. By all that is good and kind in this WORLD, do not WRITE to her…not so much as a post-it note.
Do not say or do anything in respect to her unless you have run it past your lawyer. Because otherwise, seriously, someone who is clearly making it their choice to be this hostile, they WILL twist it, turn it and do everything possible to use it against you.

Just stay completely away from her, unless advised to contact her by your lawyer, until after this is legally resolved. Do EVERYTHING through legal channels.

This should be a TPF Sticky!!!!!!!!!

 

[tirediron]

EVERYTHING through a lawyer. EVERYTHING.

yeah it'll cost you more, but it'll cost you even MORE if you don't.

^THAT. So very, very much, THAT.

Seriously, you don't have kids with her do you? That would change things, but if there are no kids involved…Do. NOT. Speak. To. Her.
Do. NOT. Write. To. Her. By all that is good and kind in this WORLD, do not WRITE to her…not so much as a post-it note.
Do not say or do anything in respect to her unless you have run it past your lawyer. Because otherwise, seriously, someone who is clearly making it their choice to be this hostile, they WILL twist it, turn it and do everything possible to use it against you.

Just stay completely away from her, unless advised to contact her by your lawyer, until after this is legally resolved. Do EVERYTHING through legal channels.

Ummm... are we talking about two adults or a kindergarten class? WHY would you pay a lawyer's exorbitant fees for something that requires nothing more than a simple telephone call/knock on the door???????

 

[kathyt]

I just went through a divorce and I got all of my photog stuff. Wasn't even the slightest issue since it was my business.

 

[JacaRanda]

EVERYTHING through a lawyer. EVERYTHING.

yeah it'll cost you more, but it'll cost you even MORE if you don't.

^THAT. So very, very much, THAT.

Seriously, you don't have kids with her do you? That would change things, but if there are no kids involved…Do. NOT. Speak. To. Her.
Do. NOT. Write. To. Her. By all that is good and kind in this WORLD, do not WRITE to her…not so much as a post-it note.
Do not say or do anything in respect to her unless you have run it past your lawyer. Because otherwise, seriously, someone who is clearly making it their choice to be this hostile, they WILL twist it, turn it and do everything possible to use it against you.

Just stay completely away from her, unless advised to contact her by your lawyer, until after this is legally resolved. Do EVERYTHING through legal channels.

Ummm... are we talking about two adults or a kindergarten class? WHY would you pay a lawyer's exorbitant fees for something that requires nothing more than a simple telephone call/knock on the door???????

No way, it's not that simple at all. Too often people do not act anything like adults when going through a divorce.

Sharon's advice is right on point with almost every divorce I can think of. This thread damn near gives me flashbacks .....glad I can almost laugh now

Haaaa, not counting Kathy's of course

 

[shefjr]

As an aside, I'm sorry to hear you are getting a divorce and things have gone so venomous. It always makes me feel bad when I hear people are splitting. :/ I hope when the dust settles that you are both at least happier.

 

[JacaRanda]

EVERYTHING through a lawyer. EVERYTHING.

yeah it'll cost you more, but it'll cost you even MORE if you don't.

^THAT. So very, very much, THAT.

Seriously, you don't have kids with her do you? That would change things, but if there are no kids involved…Do. NOT. Speak. To. Her.
Do. NOT. Write. To. Her. By all that is good and kind in this WORLD, do not WRITE to her…not so much as a post-it note.
Do not say or do anything in respect to her unless you have run it past your lawyer. Because otherwise, seriously, someone who is clearly making it their choice to be this hostile, they WILL twist it, turn it and do everything possible to use it against you.

Just stay completely away from her, unless advised to contact her by your lawyer, until after this is legally resolved. Do EVERYTHING through legal channels.

Ummm... are we talking about two adults or a kindergarten class? WHY would you pay a lawyer's exorbitant fees for something that requires nothing more than a simple telephone call/knock on the door???????

It would be nice if two adults did not need lawyers to get a divorce from the get go.

 

[tirediron]

^THAT. So very, very much, THAT.

Seriously, you don't have kids with her do you? That would change things, but if there are no kids involved…Do. NOT. Speak. To. Her.
Do. NOT. Write. To. Her. By all that is good and kind in this WORLD, do not WRITE to her…not so much as a post-it note.
Do not say or do anything in respect to her unless you have run it past your lawyer. Because otherwise, seriously, someone who is clearly making it their choice to be this hostile, they WILL twist it, turn it and do everything possible to use it against you.

Just stay completely away from her, unless advised to contact her by your lawyer, until after this is legally resolved. Do EVERYTHING through legal channels.

Ummm... are we talking about two adults or a kindergarten class? WHY would you pay a lawyer's exorbitant fees for something that requires nothing more than a simple telephone call/knock on the door???????

It would be nice if two adults did not need lawyers to get a divorce from the get go.

Why would you? The law's not a secret. Everything one needs to know is plainly and freely available from a multitude of sources. Acting like spoiled children who need their mommy to referee doesn't make anything better.

 

[JacaRanda]

Ummm... are we talking about two adults or a kindergarten class? WHY would you pay a lawyer's exorbitant fees for something that requires nothing more than a simple telephone call/knock on the door???????

It would be nice if two adults did not need lawyers to get a divorce from the get go.

Why would you? The law's not a secret. Everything one needs to know is plainly and freely available from a multitude of sources. Acting like spoiled children who need their mommy to referee doesn't make anything better?

I'm with you. No need whatsoever. I ended up just as angry with my lawyer as I was with the ex before we even got to court.

But real world things come into play. Children, assets etc. It sure would be nice to put a bunch of divorce lawyers out of business. Just not that easy to get adults to act like adults when one decides they don't want the other anymore.

 

[pgriz]

Ummm... are we talking about two adults or a kindergarten class? WHY would you pay a lawyer's exorbitant fees for something that requires nothing more than a simple telephone call/knock on the door???????

It would be nice if two adults did not need lawyers to get a divorce from the get go.

Why would you? The law's not a secret. Everything one needs to know is plainly and freely available from a multitude of sources. Acting like spoiled children who need their mommy to referee doesn't make anything better.

John, when splits are involved, rationality goes out the window and into an orbit somewhere outside of Pluto. One of my brother-in-laws is a managing partner is a very large Toronto law firm, and he told me that a few years ago, almost 50% of his billing was mediating between two billionaire brothers who jointly inherited their father's empire. I was a jury member in a trial where one of the partners burnt down the house to be sure that the spouse wouldn't get it (as per court order). I know of a business associate who bankrupted his multi-million dollar business to be sure that his wife would get nothing (she was part-owner). I have seen in my own extended family the incredible venom that sometime occurs when two people decide they really hate each other. In fact, the smartest thing one can do under those kinds of circumstances is to go through the lawyer screen to keep the incendiary sparks to a minimum.

 

[MSnowy]

Since you don't own the lens she doesn't get to spit half its value. What she gets to do is pay half of whats owed on it when Canon comes a knocking.