Help! My soon to be wife is uncomfortable with me shooting Nude art

[mishele]

Probably has less to do w/ her believing he's going to cheat and more to do w/ her insecurities w/ her own body.

 

[nola.ron]

Probably has less to do w/ her believing he's going to cheat and more to do w/ her insecurities w/ her own body.

And/or control. Could also be realizing how great that scrotum purse would look with her outfits!

 

[imagemaker46]

Bottom line here is that he came to a photo forum for martial advice. This should sound some alarm bells in his life. Is he going to print everything out and let her read all the comments, I doubt it. The last thing she would want to read is comments from a bunch of strangers giving him advice on how to deal with his future wife. I'd get rid of all the sharp objects in the house and sleep with one eye open face down if she knew he was asking for this kind of help.

 

[mishele]

You don't have to worry about all that. He'll hang himself after he reads this.

 

[ratssass]

I like turtles.........

 

[nola.ron]

You don't have to worry about all that. He'll hang himself after he reads this.

My guess is that he has read most of this, dismissed all these valid/logical opinions and pieces of advice/experience and dismissed us all as a bunch of internet crazies... because he is getting married to the love of his life and a fairytell story is about to start. I bet he has also started to believe that nude photography is not allowed in marriage and that all professional photographers that do this are single.

 

[gsgary]

I can think of anything to say that wont make me sound like a chauvinist.

Go for it

 

[vintagesnaps]

I think perspective changes; what someone might find acceptable as a boyfriend/girlfriend may not be so acceptable for a husband/wife. Is this something that's really important to you (it seems like it is) or is it something that you're able to compromise on? if she's not comfortable with it now, will she be once you're married?

I think at this point you'd need to consider not just the upcoming wedding, but the marriage - you're talking about the rest of your lives together. No matter the difficulty and even if it would mean cancellations, etc., it might be better if you make the decision now whether or not to stay together and go forward with the wedding or not.

It's up to you to make the decision, and if it doesn't work out it might be one of those situations that down the road you might realize why it was just as well... You might be looking for someone who will love and accept you for who you are, and who you'd love & accept for who she is.

And if you have to ask on a message board that ought to be telling you something (maybe that you wanted some objective opinions besides those of friends/family??) It sounds like you have doubts and I wish you well however it works out.

 

[bunny99123]

Let's be honest...he's never going to call off this wedding w/ it only 3 weeks away. He's in for the long haul.

I agree! Maybe she is getting cold feet, and throwing a fit, to get him to call it off..."This is my husband saying, "better to be wrong and be happy, then be right and be unhappy...lol" I am lucky my marriage doesn't have restraints. He is who he is, and I am whom I am. You need to find someone that accepts you for who you are...that doesn't mean someone can get away with bad behavior. Try to compromise...she can be there when you take nude pics, and you cut down on shooting them...

 

[manaheim]

I like turtles.........

I like monkeys!

 

[mishele]

I like..........oh never mind.

 

[TCampbell]

Actually... you can often get better advice from a complete stranger than a close friend. A complete stranger isn't trying to protect anybody's feelings. Often they'll just tell it like they see it.

 

[Overread]

Guys this thread has gone well thus far, lets not degrade ourselves into slinging insults at people and the like - lets remain mature.

She knew you did this as a profession and fine art for the last year. I don't see why she couldn't deal with it when you're married. Seems silly to me if she had a year to think about this.

Some girls get kind of crazy when they get a ring on their finger. Not really sure why, but something happens to them, lol.

I don't understand it, but I have seen it happen a lot. Something just changes when they get that ring...

I put it down to expectations and escape.
Firstly marriage is one of those big things in life that people build up toward, especially women (who socially and culturally) are often "told" that marriage is their goal and aim in life (as well as a few other things). Granted in this day and age in teh western world this message is not as strong as it was in the past, but it is somewhat still present in society in general. So this big event is built up and a lot of preconceptions as to what it should be like "When your married" are put in place - this can mean that people suddenly snapfire change once they enter this state as they are acting how they've been brought up (and this might be subconscious influences).


The escape factor is getting out of a relationship - when you're dating there is no social stigma, legal barriers or much trouble in dumping someone. You can do it for whatever reason you want and get out of a relationship. Marriage puts up big barriers and whilst society is generally more accepting of divorce it still carries with it some stigma and the legal aspects carry with them both a lengthening of the process, an increase in complexity and also a cost. When you dump your dating partner you don't suddenly have half your bank account up for being taken away along with other things.


So it does change things and I can understand how this change can affect some people more drastically than others.

 

[imagemaker46]

I think it's time to shut this one down. There is little else that can be said, other than good luck and prenup.

 

[mishele]

Don't shut it!!! Give the guy a chance to come back!!

(yes, I know he hasn't been back in 2 days)