..... is it normal, and or ok, to alter your photos afterward with photoshop, or is that frowned upon?
Our brains alter our perception of reality to conform to many of our expectations, so humans never see reality anyway.
A photograph is a 2-D image of a 3-D scene, so that part of reality is immediately altered.
The image sensor is a linear analog device having a dynamic range much smaller than our non-linear analog eyes, so the camera can't record what we can see anyway.
Digital SLR image sensors only record red, green, and blue light. Most in a square 4 pixel array: 1 red pixel, 1 blue pixel, and 2 green pixels on diagonal corners (humans eyes are more sensitive to green). It's called a Bayer Array. A few image sensors use a 3 layer chip that takes advantage of the refractive index of silicon. Called the Foveon image sensor.
Plus there is a filter array in front of the image sensor to block UV and infrared wavelengths of light and for anti-aliasing (AA). But the AA filter softens focus so in addition to de-mosiacing the Bayer Array image an sharpening algorithm has to be applied to regain some of the focus sharpness lost because of the AA filter.
Of course, then the analog voltages generated by the photons of light that hit the image sensor pixel photo receptors have to be amplified and converted to a digital value before any further image processing can be done. More altering of reality.
So every digital photo is significantly altered from reality. Some like the JPEG format are altered right in the camera and a sizable amout of the image dtat is simple discarded to reduce the file size.
To alter a photo a bit more in Photoshop sure doesn't seem like a no-no.
So, every photograph ever made has been altered. Before digital cameras a lot of it was all done in a wet darkroom. The photographer chose the film, and each film type reacted to light and color differently. Which chemicals, at what temperature, using which agitation technique were used to develope the negatives. Photographic papers were chosen based on how they rendered contrast and/or saturated colors, unless the film used was color transparency film.
A lot of what Photoshop can do is just what was done in a darkroom, but done digitally - without using smelly chemicals while wearing a rubber apron and gloves.