harder and harder
What she said!! ^^^
I am sorry, but you are NOT going to get this by using that flash. You are just making it harder and harder. The flash is great for snapshots for now, but you HAVE to learn how to manage ISO, shutter and aperture WITHOUT flash first. You are f*cking yourself over doing this.
Put your nifty fifty on, turn on every light in the house and bring them all into the room you are working in, pump up the ISO while you LEARN. those images aren't supposed to be the cherished ones of a lifetime. They are supposed to be LEARNING images. You have to learn one step before the other. That's how it works.
However, sometimes the quality and the quantity of available light is just not there. But there should not be an excuse for bad lighting. As a professional photographer, we need to have the ability to see, shape and create the light as needed. When the quality of available natural light is poor, there is no excuse for not bringing out and using our flashes.
Nothing wrong with wanting the learning curve to speed up. BUT. Any skill takes time to assimilate. You may get your head wrapped around the subject, and that's good, but until you get it to the point where you've internalized the process (ie, not thinking), you are still going to be "grinding gears". And the best way I know to get up the learning curve is to do lots and lots of practice (did I mention Lots of Practice?). MLeek's point is that if you jump around too much and don't get each element down more or less in turn, you'll delay the moment where things start to flow. What did mother say? take small bites, chew slowly and thoroughly, swallow, digest, and then continue. You've got a beautiful daughter, and obviously a supportive spouse. Good environment to make things happen.
Your focus seems to be pretty good. Since you got a flash now, try Kerbouchard's suggestions. If that doesn't work, remember that one of the key skills for any photographer is learning to use light. Small lights close to your subject (as in direct flash) give harsh highlights and shadows. Large surface lights (as in bouncing the flash onto a white surface) give much more pleasing gradual shadows. Try it both ways and see the difference.
All these threads sound alike.
MLeeK said:I am sorry, but you are NOT going to get this by using that flash. You are just making it harder and harder. The flash is great for snapshots for now, but you HAVE to learn how to manage ISO, shutter and aperture WITHOUT flash first. You are f*cking yourself over doing this.
Put your nifty fifty on, turn on every light in the house and bring them all into the room you are working in, pump up the ISO while you LEARN. those images aren't supposed to be the cherished ones of a lifetime. They are supposed to be LEARNING images. You have to learn one step before the other. That's how it works.