I understand what you're saying Overread and I do believe that many people may feel the same way. I can only respond for myself and how I feel about photography and a few other things. Many of you know that I grew up in photography having a father who is regarded as the best photojournalist in Canada, an icon. I never felt any pressure to compete against him, even though on many assignments we worked together we had a friendly "who could out shoot who" He only beat me once, but it was a good beating, we were shooting sports. I think competition is good, looking at images that are better than we "think" we could shoot drives us to try harder. This applies to everything if life.
I'm a very competitive person, in everything but photography, which may sound strange as it's the only thing I've ever done. I've never felt that I had to be better than anyone else, I just shoot to my abilities and keep looking at being better with each shoot, or at least come away with something different. I see what other photographers shoot and for the most part know how they ended up with the image, could I produce a similar image, maybe, if I spent enough time trying, but I don't try. I appreciate the quality and time spent producing the image, I don't feel intimidated by it, or the photographer that produced it. We have to set our own standards and not worry about others.
Right now, I couldn't shoot outstanding wedding images, or landscapes, fashion, or creative product images, these aren't the fields I work in, if I dropped shooting sports and concentrated on any of these, I know in time, I could.
I don't enter contests, I don't care much for titles, photographer of the year, best portrait, best picture of a dog, just never have. I shoot for myself and my clients. I'm regarded as one of the best model car builders in North America, I have dominated contests for decades. My hobby isn't photography, it's model cars and I push myself in that area, it's what I love doing, it's how I relax, I try and build what others don't, not that they can't, they just think it's too difficult because they never tried. I've always played sports, and am just as competitive, always trying be better than the next guy.
There is a drive that everyone has, it's just a matter of how you want to control it. I always strive to be the best, I don't always succeed, but that just makes me want to be better, for myself. Many will never see the top rung, and it's not a matter of saying "I'm a loser" It's not even a matter of just accepting, everyone has a different skill set, be happy with the skills you have, but don't ever stop trying to be better.