Thankyou my friend for the very blunt and educated critique, this is what I put my photographs up here for. I agree with most of your comments, perhaps you will understand the reason behind them. The reason for the close crop on the right, was because the pic has been rotated to the left, as she was resting her head on her hand on a table. also it was taken at a resteraunt on her 9th birthday, so wanted to get rid of the clutter. The soft focus on the neck is as you suggest is artificial, put there simply to throw more focus on the face. The highlight on the cheek comes from the use of flash. I did touch up the whites of the eyes on the coloured one, (to much).
As for the mono one I usually dont go much for them, but was trying out a plugin. thanks again Ernie