I'm not trying to be holier than thou. I'm just trying to stop this poster and his EOS buddy from slashing their own throats.
Cindy
It was more your tone that really got me down. I realise (more from reading your latest posts) you are very passionate about what you do. So am I. I suppose I may come across cheeky and arrogant too at times when it's not really meant.
One thing that really annoyed me was the above. It should be noted I'm no-one's "buddy". Because I share the same thought of capturing a special unique moment of a day does am I "downclassing business"? If it doesn't work I say nothing lost and why would I be cutting my throat?
In Scotland where I live it is rare that a wedding photographer gets to stand on the alter in front of a couple. In certain places like registry offices some allow you to be at the front some don't. Many churches do not have areas where the photographer can get in front of the couple and being advised by the priest or minister that you have to stay at the back and refrain from using flash is a pain as I'm sure you'll be aware of. Even being close to the front is sometimes not enough.
I too have tried the sweet talking but perhaps that's best left for a pretty girl

I've never had any real problems in any of the weddings I've shot. Sure we panic when things don't go to plan and you've very little time to capture the formals but we deal with that.
If it's been tried with no success as you say then that makes me less interested in doing it. I perhaps would have had more respect for your views at the start if you hadn't gone off on such a wild tangent.
Also perhaps I didn't make my experience known and you think I'm a first timer too...... That's not the case. I've been shooting weddings for about 18 months now. It is not my main job (I would not make the same money from photography as I do at my main job - supp;ose that makes me a weekend warrior

) but I would like to be able to keep learning (as we all do constantly) and I love shooting weddings and have had much success and that's why I get business. Perhaps one day I may decide to do it full time. I'm happy supplenmenting my salary for now. I also have a bag of fantastic fast glass and equipment that makes shooting weddings a lot easier - I might not use the 24-105 for a full wedding but it's with me when shooting formals and I love it!
It downclasses the business, because I can't tell you the amount of horror stories I've heard from clients and priests. A story about a local wedding photographer made the nightly news recently, and it messed up ALL of the wedding photogs in the area. You will never see the newscast about the happy bride, but get one "wakes up one morning and wants to be a wedding photog" person out there, and it's a weeks worth of news. No kidding.
I don't think I've ever heard anything like this in the UK. If people decide they want a cheap job, that's what they'll generally get and it's their fault. If I thought I could not achieve something, I'd politely decline and recommend another. My friend who assistes for me is a portrait photographer and he's a great guy to have arouns. I advise all my clients of my level of experience and also show them images I have in my portfolio and advise of prices up front. It's the images and trust that win me my business.
You mentioned EGO and I do think that's how you came across but having read you last few posts from earlier I see what you were trying to say.
Lets say we have differing views although I do see what you are saying. I'm not saying this is the way forward or anything but for something different and the poportunity is there to have a spare camera I think it may proivide some nice moments.
Even though I'm not the OP, I really appreciate the points you and others have made.
Best regards
Jim