I know what the OP was talking about. Contrary to popular belief high speed photography can be done with basic equipment and improvised lighting, it just takes a little more time and effort. If I had a good tank I would do some of these, but I don't have one so it'll have to wait for me.
Yes, shutter speed has a lot to do with it. Ok, so I did not make as big a deal as I prolly should have about the lighting, but that was my error when I got carried away trying to get the OP away from the fast lens ideaology.
Trying to do shots like this using the fast lens for it's "fast application" is destined to fail, hell 4 or 5.6 might even be a little too open but still. I honestly feel it was the dark studio concept that put this perceved need for a fast lens into the OP's head in the first place.
Judging by the OP's post, I have to assume that they are far from ready to be shooting in a blackout studio, They would be better served practicing on droplet pictures in the kitchen sink so they know what they are getting them self into, and then trying it under constant light.