pendennis said:
As others mentioned women, especially those approaching middle age, when facial wrinkles start to become more prominent, the lighting and "lensing" need to be softer, even adding a slight softening filter. In the film days, and large format, there were lenses which had chromatic aberration, which aided in giving a softer look for women. Look at movies made in the B&W era; all women were photographed using soft focus lenses. No woman wants more wrinkles than absolutely necessary.
Do you think my modified version is not soft enough? I haven't quite grasped how to use any of the add-on filters available with Lightroom/Photoshop yet...
The modified version still seems a bit harsh, but from the single-source lighting. There isn't much that can be done with post processing if the light sources aren't what you needed to start. It's also difficult to control the DOF with such a great distance from the subject to the background.
The soft-focus filters I used were all camera mounted, with some custom ones made from nylon hose stretched across a filter ring. I also had a couple of large format portrait lenses made in the 1930's and 1940's which were "soft focus" by their design. Even today, I use filters on images as much as possible, to avoid a lot of editing.
Lighting is a tricky thing. My preference was to get the lighting to my liking before taking the picture; not that the algorithms used by Photoshop, etc., aren't great. The better original image I could get, the less modification in the darkroom or software programs. As I earlier mentioned, the more lighting sources, the easier it is to avoid huge post-exposure work. This was true in film, and is just as true in digital.
Alas, my portraiture days are long past, but my learning came from pros who worked with large and medium format. I also worked as an assistant, and I had notebooks full of notes and drawings of lighting setups, and used them to improve my skills.
I also know, from experience, what I envisioned in the final image. I made my set up based on that. It's again, critical, to help differentiate between what is a good photo, from a great one.