relationships.

[m33kr0b]

Never trust anyone! At some point everyone will **** you over, all it needs is the right push. **** Relationships and **** Love.

 

[monkeykoder]

Never trust anyone! At some point everyone will **** you over, all it needs is the right push. **** Relationships and **** Love.

This however is a bad idea. Just don't obsess over it and most likely things will turn out ok.

 

[rhall54]

This however is a bad idea. Just don't obsess over it and most likely things will turn out ok.

I will never give up on love. I will be more careful about who I trust though.

Thanks again to everyone. All of this has really helped!

 

[raechael]

well, thats the struggle of life and love, isn't it?
It takes time, and LOTs of pain to find a real love. but you never find love if your looking for it. And it's really hard to put so much faith in one person unless you can honestly trust them with your life. its not smart to try and believe someone is something other than what they are. If you can't accept that they will fail you, then whats the point of accepting them in a relationship?

 

[monkeykoder]

To quote an excellent book "Waiting is"

 

[raechael]

what book is that?

 

[monkeykoder]

Do you really want to know (it's just standard Sci-fi).

 

[bradster76]

well, thats the struggle of life and love, isn't it?
It takes time, and LOTs of pain to find a real love. but you never find love if your looking for it. And it's really hard to put so much faith in one person unless you can honestly trust them with your life. its not smart to try and believe someone is something other than what they are. If you can't accept that they will fail you, then whats the point of accepting them in a relationship?

All that pretty much explains my frustrations, ATM. I am out of ideas anymore. At a total loss. The whole idea to me, of what a relationship should be sounds pretty simple, but everyone I date is a ball of complexes, issues and head game drama, high school crap. What happened to being open and honest??? I can't find a woman like that anywhere, anymore. Online dating is about as safe as handling venomous snakes bare handed. So, screw that.

I am still (kinda) with her in hopes things get better (am I a fool to think that? Probably. yah. I am). I love her, but not the crap she can pull. I'd rather keep up my life as:

Go to work. Come home. Spend free time taking photos, play World of Warcraft (you know, go on a raid and kill some damn gnomes...)...good stress reliever, have a few beers and go to sleep. Repeat.

And I can do without sex or romance. It's all over rated. Big. I have fun being behind a camera and in some old building or being a epic 70 orc warrior with a big ass mace, and crushing those damn Alliance. Paybacks for owning Crossroads!! FOR THE HORDE!! :lmao::lmao:

 

[rhall54]

All that pretty much explains my frustrations, ATM. I am out of ideas anymore. At a total loss. The whole idea to me, of what a relationship should be sounds pretty simple, but everyone I date is a ball of complexes, issues and head game drama, high school crap. What happened to being open and honest??? I can't find a woman like that anywhere, anymore. Online dating is about as safe as handling venomous snakes bare handed. So, screw that.

I am still (kinda) with her in hopes things get better (am I a fool to think that? Probably. yah. I am). I love her, but not the crap she can pull. I'd rather keep up my life as:

oh man.. i feel ya. Things should be so simple. Be honest. Be caring. Don't play mind games.

Unfortunately.. I am am talking to this boy again. WOW.. I'm an idiot.. I know. But it's just a constant game it feels like. He's insecure about a boy talking to me, so he feels he's got to make me jealous. Why not just let life happen? If someone of the male gender says hello to me, that does not translate to oh my god we want each other. seriously. If a female says hello to him I would surely expect him to acknowledge her as a person. It's just ridiculous things that all stem from insecurity. I have no idea what on earth this dude could be unsecure about.. OBVIOUSLY I don't ever want to be without him.. jeez.

I care about him so much, but I wish he could view relationships the same way as I do. Instead he is constantly doing crazy things because he's insecure.

 

[Diddy2theJJ]

thank you all so much for the advice!!

Bradster- This is what I want in a relationship so bad. It was just natural for me to like being around him. He's truly a fun person to be around. He has a great sense of humor and i loved his company. But for some reason he didn't feel the same about me. ya know during one of the break-ups he said he was jealous of me and it made him not like me. And I it's hard for me to understand this bc I don't feel he has any reason to be jealous of me or anyone. I am the kind of person who can be thrown into a room of strangers and start and carry on a conversation for hours. I love people. I like to care for people. It's just who I am. He on the other hand, always finds the bad things in people, reasons to not give them a chance and avoid them. He was very negative. Apparently, he would get mad that I was so positive about life. Isn't that a little backwards? I mean I've been through a lot growing up just like any other person has, but you have one life and its meant to be a good one. you are supposed to be happy and when you are feeling down you look for positivity, you look for hope. I'm sorry I'm rambling. Basically, he started to hate me bc he wanted to be more like me, but is too hateful. I just don't understand. It's easy for me to care for people, and it's easy for him to judge and hate. He was not always like this. I miss who he used to be. It was great. We used to just be happy and spend time together. anyway.. i could go on...

but thank you everyone for all of your advice.

Rhall...you sound like my dream girl. It's too bad you don't live closer to me

 

[monkeykoder]

Rhall...you sound like my dream girl. It's too bad you don't live closer to me

Distance? Why should that matter?

 

[Battou]

Does anyone else feel like no one can be trusted anymore?

My intentions were always good. You fall in love. You want the best for the other person and you want to share your life with them. You care for them and want them to always be happy. And because you feel this way you assume the other person feels the same thing. Especially when they tell you they feel exactly the same. And after two years you'd think you would know a person and be able to have faith in them.

But then one day it just all turns around. You find out everything was a lie. Not one day in the last two years was true. Everyday of the last two years was based on lies and you had no idea. How do you move on? How do you let someone get close to you again? How do you love again?

Well...I'm prolly not the right person to answer this one but...

I know the feeling, a little over two years as well. A relationship I had been in was a little more than joke. My GF at the time was seeing not one but two other guys. I was in jouvie at the time and still in highschool, I guess I had the blinders on to have been unable to see it. But anywho, I had a major falling out, learning of it drove me into seclution for well over a decade. I did not date at all. Other forces made me decicively paranoid about the world around me to boot and I basically just started making my self undesireable to put it bluntly. It was not untill several months ago that I finally started seeing someone again, she dragged me out of the hole I was so content in. Dunno how but, she did.

Is anyone sincere anymore? Is anyone not completely selfish and only out for self gain?

I'm completely lost.

The answer is yes, as for how to find them....I could not begin to tell you.

 

[monkeykoder]

The answer is yes, as for how to find them....I could not begin to tell you.

The answer is simple we're the ones that you don't see, we're the ones that are invisible, we're the ones that get passed over because we're not @$$holes. The real problem is we've quit looking so to find us you have to throw a slightly bigger than normal smile our way it doesn't take all that much just an acknowledgment that you might be interested.

 

[Battou]

The answer is simple we're the ones that you don't see, we're the ones that are invisible, we're the ones that get passed over because we're not @$$holes. The real problem is we've quit looking so to find us you have to throw a slightly bigger than normal smile our way it doesn't take all that much just an acknowledgment that you might be interested.

That is kind of how it happened with me....I mean hell, I walked away from Kate three times with no intention presuing a relationship with her, and this was after she come on to me. Prior to that I had never even "looked" at her in any capasity.

I do know what changed my mind, but that is a long story that I am not going into. Every time I do I never finish the post.

Although, one thing I still do not understand, nor can get answered is what it was about me that she coveted in the first place.

 

[monkeykoder]

There is one thing I've learned in my life and that is that you can never completely understand the mind of another person and if that other person is of the opposite sex you're bound to be even further off the path.